I thought I was pro-choice but if that means I am supposed to support someone aborting their 20wk old baby because it doesnt have the right genitalia then NOPE I guess Im NOT pro-choice after all!
I haven't read the whole thread but I thought I'd give my view.
Firstly, I am completely against abortion due to gender. However, if this child was going to be unloved (and I assume this would be the case based on how desperate they were for a late term abortion) then maybe it was better for the child to not have been born. Also, if it was going to deeply affect the mothers mental health - although she should have been prepared for either gender if they had been trying so I feel this argument is a bit of a cop out.
Secondly, I am pro-choice. Before we started trying I had already discussed with my OH that if we were to fall pregnant I would abort as soon as I found out. To that end I was on the pill and my partner was using condoms and I was aware of my cycle. I did everything I could to prevent it and luckily it never happened. I have been desperate for children for years and yet I recognise that I was not in a situation where I could bring up a child. Thankfully we are now in that situation and we are lucky enough to be pregnant with our first.
Thirdly, I think being pro-choice is not just about the right of the mother over the child. I have given my hubby strict instructions that if something happens during labour and its me or the baby I want him to chose the baby. That is my choice. It is probably going to be quite controversial and unpopular but it is MY choice.
I value the opportunity that the society we lives in gives us. I value that I have the right to bodily autonomy and it saddens me that some believe this shouldn't be the case. Banning abortion at any stage will not stop abortions, it will only increase the deaths from abortions as people go to unqualified 'doctors' who are willing to perform the service for a great cost.
You saying I don't believe in bodily autonomy is like me saying you don't love babies because you're not campaigning to outlaw abortion. Its blowing hot air and distorting the facts.
Anyway who gives a hoot about a definition. What I think the intent is (and feel free to correct me!) is call me out on the fact that I only agree with abortion in a small number of cases. And you can't do that. You can disagree but you can't say Im wrong as its my personal view which I stand by.
mama and her little bearxxx (01-05-2013)
I'm not sure how to change the title of the thread after it has been created. I reported your post : not in a bad way, just to ask a mod to help amend the title.
Vic Park, I have edited the title and changed the warning part to caps while I was there, let me know if you think it needs another edit.
I'm only up to post #146 but I wonder, I am reading people saying that this is different to the 'normal' reasons for a termination they are terminating due to gender not because they didn't want a child in general, people are posting saying they would do anything for a baby a healthy one. How is this any different to a couple terminating because the fetus has tested positive to some genetic disability ect? They obviously wanted a child as well.
I'm pro-choice so my opinion of this subject is mute, not my pregnancy, not my choice.
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