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    Quote Originally Posted by Lillynix View Post
    Not according to anti-abortion laws in Ireland or El Salvador.

    *I can haz typos*
    http://www.cbc.ca/news/world/story/2...ion-death.html

    http://www.salon.com/2013/04/26/el_s...abortion_case/

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    I also struggle to grasp the concept of being pro choice except for... but... only until... Would this not be taking away the choice some women make to terminate late or for whichever reason they choose? How is that still pro choice? Pro choice as long as its the same as your choice? I am genuinely interested in hearing someones view on this as I do feel it is black and white if you label yourself pro choice - there can of course be a middle ground but I don't feel that is either pro choice nor pro life. I completely agree that this is a very very horrible reason and I cannot understand or even sympathise but I think the choice should still be their own, to take it away would be the start of a long line of problems.

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    Thank you! I was looking up links to those stories whilst you posted. I'm a bit slow on my phone!

    *I can haz typos*

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    Quote Originally Posted by Clementine Grace View Post

    I just don't get gender selection. A child should be a blessing, whether its a boy or a girl. If you get 3 boys in a row and want a girl then it's the way the cookie crumbles and you should just be grateful for healthy children. I don't get it.
    I'll just be clear that I personally dont agree with gender selection except for genetic reasons.

    However - Your statement however has upset me. I happen to know quite a few women who suffered from gender disappointment after going through IVF for infertility. Once again, as I stated earlier in this thread, for the vast majority of people who suffer from GD, it isnt about the baby you are carrying or not being grateful for a healthy baby. Its letting go of the son/daughter you'll never have.

    I dont expect everyone who hasnt felt it to understand it. You dont have to 'get' it. But it doesnt mean you are not grateful for a healthy baby. The 2 emotions are separate, and people feel enough guilt as it is for their feelings. We dont need to be made out to be selfish, horrible people who are not grateful.

    Sorry but this has hit a nerve for me. Terminating a baby because of their gender is not gender disappointment. It is much, much more extreme.

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    Sorry I feel like I should delete my last post. A very bad day, plus pregnancy hormones and an issue im still struggling with has made this topic a little too touchy for me, I am going to bow out now. Sorry if I upset anyone.

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    Quote Originally Posted by peanutmonkey View Post
    I'll just be clear that I personally dont agree with gender selection except for genetic reasons.

    However - Your statement however has upset me. I happen to know quite a few women who suffered from gender disappointment after going through IVF for infertility. Once again, as I stated earlier in this thread, for the vast majority of people who suffer from GD, it isnt about the baby you are carrying or not being grateful for a healthy baby. Its letting go of the son/daughter you'll never have.

    I dont expect everyone who hasnt felt it to understand it. You dont have to 'get' it. But it doesnt mean you are not grateful for a healthy baby. The 2 emotions are separate, and people feel enough guilt as it is for their feelings. We dont need to be made out to be selfish, horrible people who are not grateful.

    Sorry but this has hit a nerve for me. Terminating a baby because of their gender is not gender disappointment. It is much, much more extreme.

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    I'm sorry for upsetting you, but as I said, I personally don't get it. Its only my personal opinion. Gender selection must stem from not wanting one gender over another and of course a much more extreme action to terminate. I'm really not lumping them together because they are vastly different. I'm not trying to say they are the same.

    I've not said anyone is selfish or ungrateful, I said I don't get it? I'm in quite a big support group of IVF women and whenever they see gender disappointment threads on here I can assure you they can get very upset about it. Every woman I know doing ivf, and that's quite a few, are desperate to have that healthy child no matter the sex, the same as I was. I've spend a lot of time in the ivf world and I've never come across anyone who wasn't thrilled with a healthy pregnancy no matter the sex, so I might have an altered perspective.

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    Quote Originally Posted by peanutmonkey View Post
    Sorry I feel like I should delete my last post. A very bad day, plus pregnancy hormones and an issue im still struggling with has made this topic a little too touchy for me, I am going to bow out now. Sorry if I upset anyone.

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    Don't delete that what this forum is for, expressing your opinion

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    Don't delete peanutmonkey. It is good to hear your point of view!

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    Agreed, we all have different opinions that's what makes the forum wonderful, I actually really enjoy reading opinions I hadn't considered, it makes me less narrow minded and has me use my brain more - always a plus!

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    Don't delete peanut monkey. You post was not offensive. This is a tough issue for many different reasons for everyone I think.

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