I said before, do not lump all women into a category. Making their reasons sound petty and assume they took 'the easy way out' is quite cruel. They're reasons are very real to them and many feel that they have no choice. It is an incredibly scary decision.
The only full proof way to stop an unwanted pregnancy is to abstain from sex, because birth control can fail. There was a stat that even if every person used birth control there would still be 6 million abortions every year.
To terminate based on gender to me suggests that you are trying for a baby, getting pregnant intentionally with the full knowledge that it is a lucky dip, a 50/50 chance in getting a boy or girl. That is very different from getting pregnant unintentionally, for various reasons.
I agree with Beebs, you cannot take away one's right to choose but not others. But that doesn't mean I don't find this particular reason abhorrent.
Sonja's post: wow. Thank you for opening my eyes to what it may be like for somebody in a cultural position, that's truly sad and scary.
I can't remember who posted about gender disappointment above, but I think cases like this, somebody going as far as terminating based on gender goes way beyond just gender disappointment, a different kettle of fish than somebody mourning the fact that they will never have a son or daughter.
This has happened for a non-cultural reason before. A few years ago it was in the news that a couple became pregnant with twins boys via IVF and decided to terminate because they already had 3(?) boys and wanted a girl. They were going to court fighting for the right to gender select their next IVF baby.
My experience with termination hasn't made me more or less pro-life or pro-choice, it's made me just want to prevent unwanted pregnancies, preventing unwanted pregnancies is the only real way to prevent terminations. I would love to see birth control made more and more easy to access and girls and boys to be fully educated about what happens in a female body (ie how long sperm can live in a girl, etc. you really don't learn a lot of this stuff until you're TTC!). Obviously abstinence is the best policy but also doesn't always work as young people make mistakes (ie they should be on BC for when those mistakes are made).
I do think it is probably incredibly rare that a termination is preformed after 12 weeks for reasons other than medical.
Maybe if you are terminating based on gender selection then therapy should be involved (for both parents) to really get to the core of this thinking and determine if any headway could be made in the belief that one gender isn't worthy.