I have been reading along trying to think whether or not to reply. This topic is such a hard one for me to understand, yet I can immediately name a person who, had they been able to, would have chosen this route.
My MIL, desperately wanted daughters. Even bought all pink when she was pregnant with both of her children. She has 2 sons. Last year, I gave birth to her 2nd grandchild, my son. The difference between her affections towards DS and my older DD, is astounding.
Personally I cannot handle it. It hurts me more than anything because I never want my son to feel like he isn't good enough. The way his father and uncle have felt their whole lives. It is absolutely un-called for.
I get gender disappointment. I would never have ill feelings toward someone for that.
I don't believe a termination based on gender should be anyone's choice, but as a pp mentioned, said child may be ill-treated due to severe gender disappointed and have to deal with feeling unworthy their whole lives or possibly even worse. It is a very difficult subject and I think there should be a mass amount of counselling for someone making this choice prior to the procedure being agreed upon.
I dont know if its been said but in that article the dr states the husband did all the talking. Sooo maybe this was against the mothers wishes? Maybe she was too frightened to speak up/ run away etc?
I get the longing for a certain gender, I really do, but I could never terminate for that reason.
My aunty had 6 boys, 10 pregnancies. She wanted a girl so badly it still upsets her to this day but she is happy with her lot. Its just the way it goes.
I can understand termination based on medical grounds re gender but just because you don't want a boy or girl doesn't sit right with me.
I like to think I'm pro choice, but this is something I cannot agree with. But is the alternative a baby of the unwanted gender growing up unwanted? That doesn't seem fair to the baby either.
And look what just came up in my FB news feed - "Woman Married to 5 Brothers".
It's the last paragraph that stands out
While the advance of modernity has seen the archaic practice largely die out in most areas, the shortage of women in countries such as China and India has helped keep it alive as a solution to young men’s difficulties in finding a wife.
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