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    Even my friend who needed injections for pcos to get pregnant with her two kids and spent heaps of time ttc....keeps now telling me to 'not stress and it will happen'!! I thought she would at least understand. She keepa telling me the month it happened was when she didn't care. I think you have to go through a lot to have a month wherw you don't care anymore. You can't just choose to not care.

    I'm pretty much the youngest in my friendship group to so now the rest of them have at least one kid now. They keep telling me I have plenty of time as I'm not quite 30 yet, but that doesn't change the fact that I want to get pregnant now and have been trying 18mths. Plus I dont want to have kids way after all my friends.

    Sorry.....needed the vent!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Little Ted View Post
    Am starting to think I'm too old, my body too stuffed and out of whack, that my doctor will never realise what's going on and help the situation...and that we should maybe not try to have any more children as it seems like it is almost impossible for it to happen.
    I could have written this. I'm mid 30's, I don't believe my specialist is right about what's causing 2 years of infertility. I think in 6 months time it will be time to give up.

    I'm finding myself sinking into depression. I haven't wanted to admit it before today, but I think I am. I feel utterly useless as a woman. I have 2 kids but the first took 4.5 years. I'm a failure as a woman and I don't know why DH stays with me sometimes.

    I am sick of seeing all these ferals with a tribe of kids with no shoes on, shorts and no shirt on in the middle of winter while they scream abuse at them.... with yet another one on the way. I hate that someone I know just keeps breeding kids while she spends her pension on getting foils and going to the pub picking up randoms. Then has everyone feel sorry for her and give her money.

    I feel cursed. I feel like there is no end to the grief I feel everyday. Gah that's all so depressing and woe is me lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by delirium View Post
    I could have written this. I'm mid 30's, I don't believe my specialist is right about what's causing 2 years of infertility. I think in 6 months time it will be time to give up.

    I'm finding myself sinking into depression. I haven't wanted to admit it before today, but I think I am. I feel utterly useless as a woman. I have 2 kids but the first took 4.5 years. I'm a failure as a woman and I don't know why DH stays with me sometimes.

    I am sick of seeing all these ferals with a tribe of kids with no shoes on, shorts and no shirt on in the middle of winter while they scream abuse at them.... with yet another one on the way. I hate that someone I know just keeps breeding kids while she spends her pension on getting foils and going to the pub picking up randoms. Then has everyone feel sorry for her and give her money.

    I feel cursed. I feel like there is no end to the grief I feel everyday. Gah that's all so depressing and woe is me lol

    You're not a failure. It's just stupid timing and stupid this and that..
    Whatever happens, never blame yourself xx

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    Delirium I feel like a failure too, I have been trying for 7 years and had 5 miscarriages at various stages. Everyone around me seems to have at least one baby and in some instances two or more, it's not fair I just want to be like everyone else and be able to fall pregnant and carry a baby to term. It feels like I am just a failure as a women because I can not do what comes naturally to all other women (seemingly)

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    Delirium - your DH loves you & wants to be with you I'm sure. He married the person you are not you stilly misbehaving ovaries & uterus. This is a very hard process to go through & after that long TTC with no hope I'm not surprised your feeling depressed, CONGRATULATIONS your human & not a robot!!!
    Dont give up keep strong & I hope all your wishes come true one day

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    I've battled anxiety for years. TTC just makes it worse. But now I feel guilty for getting worried after only 6 months of proper trying (18 months off bc), when there are so many of you on bubhub who have been trying for years. Hugs to all of you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Funchu View Post
    I've battled anxiety for years. TTC just makes it worse. But now I feel guilty for getting worried after only 6 months of proper trying (18 months off bc), when there are so many of you on bubhub who have been trying for years. Hugs to all of you.
    Don't feel bad Funchu...what worries me the most is i don't know whether it will 'just' take 8 months or whether its going to take years. I find the uncertainity hard to deal with.

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    Yeah. I was feeling the same, but I had a moment of clarity this afternoon where I thought "so what if I don't get pregnant this cycle, there's always next cycle"... like I suddenly had no need to panic. I'm putting this sudden mood swing down to hormones & a really good bd session last night ... except when I dare to have the secret thought that my good mood is because last night's bd coincided perfectly with (possible) o, & maybe we nailed it this cycle lol... little o + big O = BFP fx

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    Hey guys

    I can completely relate yo what your all going through. I have a 2.4yr old boy. I have severe pcos, insulin resistance and high testosterone levels. Fertility clinics at hospitals won't help me due to my weight. I definitely understand and know weight loss will help overall help but it will take me years which I don't have. I'm 35 in December. I was ttc for 3.5yrs. I did just end up trying to forget about it and getting on with life because I didn't know how else to cope with it. I suppressed deeply all my emotions and made plans for holidays. I hadn't had a period for a whole year!!! I go away in December overseas in 2009 and in jan 2010 I had one period. Then march I found out I was pregnant. Got usual period symptoms that lasted 5wks which prompted me to test. I was 7wks preg. Now my periods are more regular and all over the place and I don't know if or when I ovulate. If I got preg now it would he a 3.2 yr age gap. Trying to take the 'I don't care approach' but it's not working this time because I do care as the age gap is becoming bigger and bigger. I too feel like a failure that my body doesn't work properly. I can't read it and everything I read online that happens to women that is supposed to result in pregnancy doesn't happen to me at all! !! My body is completely screwed.

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    Heres my little vent

    9 months since mc at 9 weeks
    Just when we think we have the dtd down pat for that month, we get to af and ovulation has happened later than I thought.
    Also the longer we try, the more info I keep finding on the net about too much sex, when to do it

    So this month this is the plan

    Dtd on cd 10
    because it is best not to leave it more than 5 days between ejaculating

    Then dtd cd 13, 15, 17. - because dtd too often reduces sperm count

    I believe though that if count is low to begin with, the dtd daily can help
    But we are sticking to this plan

    The time we conceived it was a similar plan to this

    Ok vent over lol

    Over and out
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