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    Default Would you attend a kids party sick?

    A few weeks ago I was a bit sick DD gave it to me. I decided to NOT attend a friends kids birthday party as I did not want to pass on any germs to a room full of children. I sent a present and apologised and now she hates me and wants nothing to do with me. EH? Was this that bad?

    I see her maybe twice a year as she is not really my friend her and her hubby are DH's friends so its not like we are even close. Her hubby has told my hubby how mad she is She is much older than me so youd think shed be mature?

    Would you be mad at this? I have never met anyone like her she is a mean person generally but how does a 40 year old woman act like this?

    OR am I in the wrong? Need an unbiased answer?

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    No it's not bad. She's nuts.

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    I don't think you're in the wrong, I wouldn't want someone to attend my kids birthdays when they are sick! I'd be more likely to be cranky if they were sick and came anyway! !

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    Sounds like Shea a bit of a nutta.

    Who wants a whole heap of kids sick at a party!?! I'd be really annoyed if someone came to DDs party or even just for a visit if they were sick!

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    Agreed! Sounds like you did the right thing. I'd just ignore her...

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    I'd say cut your losses and move on! What a stupid thing to get sh!tty about!! I'm sure the other parents at the party would have been grateful for your consideration. You totally did the right thing IMO!!!

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    I would've been ****ty if you turned up sick. IMO you did the right thing. I hate inconsiderate people passing on sicknesses.

    She'll just have to get over it :-p

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    loco no way! I'd WAY prefer you not to come in any vicinity to the party!!

    This isn't a fair way for you to be treated for doing the right thing.

    Maybe like a PP mentioned she thinks you made it up?

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    Quote Originally Posted by missie_mack View Post
    Maybe she is feeling a little insecure and thought being 'sick' was an excuse to get out of going? I think when you have kids a lot of people (regardless of age!) go through a whole new set of acceptance emotions. I think older mums could find it really difficult just like young Mums do IYKWIM.

    I wouldn't take anything passed on third hand as gospel, I have known people to blow things out of proportion- she may have just had a small vent to her DH and it has gone through two other hands before getting to you. I know my hubby can tell his mother that I am not well when I have AF (despite my numerous requests not to mention it ), she then tells DH's brother how I am sick in bed and before I know it I have been ill for weeks, all due to chinese whispers

    I would just drop her an email asking how the party went, how disappointed you were to miss it and whether the present was suited and see her response yourself. If she is strange about it all still (like you have been told) move along then....

    the friend's hubby told Loco's hubby.. so pretty direct info.

    Loco - i'd just ignore her and not bother with her again.

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    IMO you did the right thing. See, I would actually call her or meet in person to discuss her vent. If she an her DH are your DH then you will probably have to socialise at some point.

    I would start by complimenting her on her party (eg DH sai it was a great party, had a great time blah blah. Then I would mention how much you missed going and that you hope she understands why you didn't go. Then let her say her piece if she wants. Maybe she had a few people call in sick and she is feeling a bit put out.

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