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    Jemellabeth: Your story is similar to mine in terms of failed IVFs, not ready for DE, trying adoption, being told you were too old and then turning to DE overseas. It seems you got really lucky falling pregnant naturally with your son! That's great. When I was trying in my late 30's, it never happened for me. Had I known I had old eggs, I would've started trying to conceive ten years earlier but I just figured I had plenty of time. NOT!!

    I am 47 and I wish we had made our decision re DE 6 years ago when we were first talking about it. When my doc first said you have to use a donor, it was 2007. It was after surgery, 3 IUIs and IVFs which failed. We were absolutely not ready. We did another IVF cycle with another clinic and got the same result. They too said you must go to DE. We were not ready.

    We took time off from meds, monitoring, cycling, etc. After about 2 years, we talked earnestly about adoption. I was ready. DH was very iffy about it but agreed to go ahead. I started making appts to see adoption lawyers and go to agencies, etc. We found out it will cost $40,000 to $50,000 at least and take about 3 years. We were also told that if we wanted an infant with no health problems and/or a white baby, it could take longer and cost more! (Didn't know each baby had a price tag on its toe...)

    What I learned about adoption shocked me. First, all the hoops we had to jump through to be "approved" and then hope and pray a birth mother selects you if the agency would even take our case because we were too old..... Then, the cost depended on the type of baby you wanted. One person actually told me that if we were interested in an African American baby with risk factors (ie Mother had alcohol or drug problem, etc.), it would be much "cheaper" and a special needs child could be had in 6 months for like $10,000. Are you kidding me? I could not believe the racket it seemed to be.

    I eventually found what had appeared to be a good situation with a birth mother through a private adoption attorney in another State. That situation ended up falling through for a few reasons but mainly because birth mom's attorney sends over her medical records and she is a smoker, has family history of mental illness and had a drug problem just prior to getting pregnant. This was not disclosed at the outset. Our attorney goes over all the risk factors, etc., this brings with it and DH totally freaks out and does not want to proceed. We backed out. Back to square 1.

    DH starts telling me that he's thought about and if we had our own child that had issues, that would be one thing and of course we'd deal with it but to go through years of hell, pay upwards of $50,000 and then knowingly adopt a child that could have lifelong problems was too much for him and he did not want to adopt anymore.

    More years pass and I start freaking out that my options are just about gone now and I cannot believe that that is it - no children. I have serious regret and am struggling. I start thinking back about adoption and looking into international adoption and one night I was online and I stumbled on an article about embryo adoption and that lead to stuff about DE and a a woman who was pregnant at 52 through DE she had in Greece. I started researching about DE overseas and found this thread and the rest is history!

    So here I am at the last resort so to speak. I've got a bit over 2 years under Greek law to make this happen. DH was reluctant at first, as I wrote about, thinking our ship had sailed and that it was too risky for me at my age to carry a child. But we talked about it alot and he came around finally and spoke to Dr. K who eased his mind quite a bit. (They spoke in Greek so I am not sure of all that was said, but after he was on board!) He now feels very excited. I think the fact we are going to Greece and he is Greek (from Greece not American Greek) makes him feel even more comfortable too. He told his brother and his wife and she has a friend who is 50, pregnant through DE from Embryoland. I did not even know that. It was total coincidence and it certainly helped sealed the deal for us to to try and to use that clinic.

    I believe things happen for a reason and I believe this all happened the way it did for a reason. I did not stumble on to a thread talking about DE in Spain (and there are threads about it of course) or even Czech, another popular one. I stumbled on a thread talking about Greece, a place we go all the time, where my DH's whole family is, etc. I've been immersed in Greek language, dance, culture, etc. for the last 20 years of my marriage! I now find it ironic it may be a Greek donor and clinic that leads me to being a Mother! I do think this was meant to be - if its going to be. Just sorry this all didn't happen sooner.

    Sorry for the long post! Getting back to the initial issue re menopause, I was having periods up until April. So its early stages for me, assuming I am menopausal. Dr K told me we need about 3 cycles prior to the DE cycle so that does put me at end of Aug/early Sept which is when I originally wanted to do it.

    I am praying all goes well and keeping my fingers crossed too!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vixjc View Post
    Justcantstop - it was definitely cringeworthy! But that was Genesis, my experience at Serum could not have been more different and was in fact better than in Aus - I didn't need to wear a skirt, they provided disposable ones ... Serum was awesome :-)
    Serum was the other clinic we considered. I read alot of good about it on one of the UK fertility boards. I'm not surprised you had a good experience there!
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    Quote Originally Posted by stacey10 View Post
    Vixjc your story is extremely similar to my experience at Embio, it was absolutely horrid !! We had to pay in either cash or the doctors Swiss bank account !
    Stacey: Today I was erasing messages from my answering machine and a message from Dr. Parascos (sp?) from Embio was still on it. When I started contacting Greek clinics I contacted 3 and that was one! I think it was you who steered me away from there initially! I have to say, he did call me back and his nurse emailed me a couple of times too. But, in the end we are not going there anyway! Cash or Swiss bank account - LOL! Like a transaction in a dark alley! Guess they don't want to pay taxes.....

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    Justcantstop yes it was me and I'm so happy you didn't choose that clinic, I know one lady who went there 3 times and had up to 5 embryos put back and still bfn, she finally changed clinics and got a Bfp first time round, she's not the only one, the list is getting longer, I've got nothing on paper that even tells me I ever had treatment there, nothing about the donor, the eggs, the embryos, just told 3 out of 10 made it to day 3, and I nearly flew off the chair during my u/s as well, and a couple if other awful things during transfer, but hey ho, you've not chosen that clinic and I moved on also

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    Thanks for your replies and advice, love this forum!
    I was sitting having my dinner last night and Dr Kanakas called me! I didn't even ask him to! He's certainly keen
    We are having a skype session on Sunday to discuss further. I also had a reply from Serum so now it's weighing up who i would prefer to use.
    We have a lot more research to do but my gut instinct is not to use Genesis.
    It's funny Dr (Anthony)Lawrence's name was mentioned - he was my old FS at Monash, who we decided not to see anymore as we felt he was very rushed at consults and would literally read our notes as we walked in the door. Didn't know he was a twin!
    Anyway, i'm sure i'll have more questions along the way and really appreciate the support. So nice we can share out experiences together as it's hard for people not on this journey to understand what it's like.

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    Default 22 weeks on.

    Wow there has been a lot happening since I was last on this site. I was pregnant with triplets but sadly lost two at 12 weeks. I still have one Bub remaining and we are now 22 weeks. Dr k has been fantastic for us. It took 4 attempts but has been worth every try to finally get here. It is a big and some what frightening thought to fly all the way to Greece to have Ivf.
    Dr k always made us feel welcome and explained everything to us. He said there would not be anything to worry about and he was right. August/ September is a lovely time to go to Greece. There is so many lovely places to visit while you are there.
    Good luck to those that are going soon. Dr k will look after you.

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    Kaithcraig, I'm so sorry you lost two of your babies. That would have been heartbreaking. I'm so glad to hear one determined little one is hanging in there and growing stronger every day. Do you know if she is a girl or a boy (not that it matters), it's just fun in imaging holding him/her in the future.
    Take care of you & your little one xx

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    Hi Kathycraig,

    So sorry to read of your update, and the loss of your two little ones.
    You certainly have a much wanted and longed for baby there. You have been through so much, I hope the rest of your pregnancy is smooth sailing.
    Thank you for the update.


    Best wishes for the rest of your pregnancy.

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    Hi I hope everyone is well and happy. I have a quick question, I was wondering if anyone has periods that seem to take ages to completely stop? My period comes on time And lasts between 8-10 days. It stops but there is often a tiny about of spotting. Sex seems to be a trigger for the spotting. I don't know. It's always been a bit like that for me. But because I'm going to athens in a few weeks I'm worried that it's not normal. I think I'm just worried about any and everything. Sorry if this is a silly question.
    Thanks guys. You're all wonderful. Xx

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    Hi Kimmymichel, I'm afraid I haven't experienced that - I was getting spotting the week or two before AF and was told it was breakthrough bleeding, don't know if the same explanation applies to you? Dr K sounds pretty approachable though, could you email him and ask? No doubt he's seen it before :-)

    Hi everyone else - I will get that roll call up soon, promise! Every time I get a chance to do it I seem to have run out of puff for the day and my inner couch potato wins out, but I'll get there in the next few days :-)

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