Ah ok so as a guide, due date is 38 weeks from ET?
Ah ok so as a guide, due date is 38 weeks from ET?
YAY! we might end up being there at the same time!
Happy to share my dets - LOL!
I'm 46 (still can't believe it!), I had my gorgeous son 4 days before my 40th birthday - literally walked out of hospital on my 40th birthday with my 4 day old son, very surreal! I had a 12.5 week miscarriage 6 months before falling pregnant with my son but really no no issues apart from just the normal egg meets sperm timing thing and had a dream pregnancy!
So fast forward 2 years and we were still trying for number 2 when my first FS told me point blank that it was a miracle that I even had my son and that based on my test results I was menopausal and had ZERO eggs left!!!!!!
It was truly the worst moment of my life and completely and totally unexpected, I remember asking her if we should try ivf and she said it wasn't an option that I needed DE.
I was almost 43 at that point and we knew nothing about DE and the only option I could see in Australia was to use TWB which is $30k+ and the success rate was poor or to find someone we knew.
Long story but we then spent the next 12mths being approved to adopt locally, were approved only to be told 18mths later that really we were too old to be considered for a child under 3yrs!!!! (the case worker referred to us as a used car!) even though at the time we had a 4 1/2 yr old!
At that point I had a coffee with a friend of mine (same age) and she told me she was pregnant and used a Donor egg, she told me suspecting that I needed to know - LOL!
I bounced around a few of the Australian Egg donor forums and groups and then found this wonderful, amazing thread barley 2 months ago. so wish I had found it 4 years ago.
HAHA - I've gone completely off track- LOL! so to specifically answer your Q - zero period for the last 2 years, late, then missing and infrequent for the yr prior, I've been on a very mild HRT to manage hideous menopause symptoms and to avoid brittle bones etc because I'm about 10yrs too early for complete menopause.
Dr K has me on MICROGYNON 30 and I have progynova ready to go, but that all so far. My first period started 2 days ago so its worked but I need a couple more before I feel confident to go over.
Hope that helps!
Jamellabeth and justcantstop - I'm hoping for early Sept too - it would be lovely to have a Bubhub soirée while we're all there if we're all going to be there at a similar time :-)
I LOVE how much momentum this thread has these days. We rock! I'm going to do an updated roll call over the weekend so we can include our new BFP's and newbies. If anyone wants their stats updated let me know xx
Vixjc your story is extremely similar to my experience at Embio, it was absolutely horrid !! We had to pay in either cash or the doctors Swiss bank account !
Sorry you had to go through that, it's certainly put me off.
So if we want to use Embryoland or Serum (without my FS's involvement) what is the next step? Do I need to start the procedure via a GP or find another FS which is affiliated with our chosen clinic?
Basically I'm worried about what drugs I should be on prior to going to Athens for the ET and who tells you what is needed. We really feel alone in all this and now I don't feel I can trust our FS as mine was the same as yours. After 3.5 yrs of tests, countless appointments, wasted money and lots of disappointment I really need some clarity.
I emailed Dr Kanakas today and he got back to me within 4hrs! Already impressed!
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I have been dealing with the clinic directly and I've found the communication to be excellent (I was really worried that things would get lost in translation!) my FS can't be 'seen' to be helping me with O/S egg donation etc but so far she is happy to chat to me about it on the phone, write up any scripts Dr K sends through and she will also arrange my scans etc. I can go in and see her but she won't make any notes about what we're doing specifically just general 'help with fertility'
Not sure where you are but can you see a different FS or even your gp? My FS is with ivf Australia in NSW
You're on the path now lovely, you'll be amazed how quickly this process can move!
Vixjc: Reading your story made me cringe. This is all such a personal experience, it is a shocking that the docs/nurses could not even fake a bit of compassion and respect. I know they see it everyday and I have certainly learned the hard way that fertility or lack of it is a business, for sure. But, its not that difficult to at least have communication with patients (and yes, you were a patient whether they called you one or not) and let them obtain treatment in some sort of a dignified manner. Horrible!
It is stories such as your that made me discount any idea of getting treated outside the US. But now, I am at a point where if I want to have a child, DE is my only option and going overseas is really the best way to do it quickly and for a reasonable price before I really am too old and all hope is lost.
I am preparing myself for what lies ahead. Luckily transfers are fairly quick so a bit of discomfort and being aware enough to make sure I bring a towel and wear a skirt is doable since that 15 minutes could change my life!!
Again though, cannot say enough about how this board is helpful. We need to go into this with our eyes open and be prepared. I'd have no clue what to do or expect without having found this thread! I probably would not even be doing this.....
Re soiree in Athens in Sept - I am DOWN for that!! Would love to have a meet up so we can all compare notes and be each other's cheerleaders. Weather in Sept in Greece is usually very nice - not too hot but still hot enough (80's) so it should be lovely! If I am following correctly, there may be 3 or more of us there then. Don't know who is coming alone or with DH but the more the merrier, right. We will definitely have to work something out!
Justcantstop - it was definitely cringeworthy! But that was Genesis, my experience at Serum could not have been more different and was in fact better than in Aus - I didn't need to wear a skirt, they provided disposable ones ... Serum was awesome :-)
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