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    It is absolutely what you can afford. We generally give $150-$300. For my sister, i made the wedding cake and paid around $200 for a suprise hens. We also spent the night at mine prior to the wedding so i provided dinner ans breakfast etc for the bridesmaids. This meant we gave $150, which i considered to be from my husband as i had done enough!

    We had a wishing well and received between 0-$1000. Everyone gave a card and we also got some gifts of "time". Our hair was done as a present by a hairdresser friend, and a tradie friend did some work on our house as a gift. I consider time so valuable so appreciated these the most!

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    I am inspired by all your responses to gift with a whole different view from now on!

    Thank you all for showing me that those who had previously influenced my feelings about this are not reflective of most people! 👍

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    I always give $100 from us as a couple

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    I give 100 so fifty each from dh and i. Its all i can afford and all i want to spend on someone that isnt me.


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    You give what you can!!! The hosts should be happy and pleased you have attended their special day - isnt it about watching them express their love and getting together to celebrate! If someone is shallow enough to go through the wishing well and be like 'ohhhhh such and such only gave $50', well maybe they need to rethink their priorities...

    ETA - like a previous poster - we also had things that were done for us and we then forbade those people to gift us as those were the gifts - ie a close friend did our cake, another all the centre pieces, another my flowers, one friend lent me her amazing dress etc etc.... its about the experience - my wedding was magical and not once did I even think to wonder how much was spent etc x
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    I don't see the whole 'pay how much you expect they are paying for you at the venue' thing as being relevant. I had no part in choosing the venue and I don't see that it is relevant.
    Agree. But then I think this is the pattern now in the last 10-15 years. Couples booking extravagant venues then expecting the guests pay for their reception for them. IMO it's the epitomy of rude.

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    Quote Originally Posted by delirium View Post
    Agree. But then I think this is the pattern now in the last 10-15 years. Couples booking extravagant venues then expecting the guests pay for their reception for them. IMO it's the epitomy of rude.
    A million times this.

    I'm all for fancy weddings, but expecting to recoup the cost of reception through gifts or a wishing well smacks of entitlement.

    By all means have an extravagant wedding but it's not the responsibility of your guests to subsidise that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by delirium View Post
    Agree. But then I think this is the pattern now in the last 10-15 years. Couples booking extravagant venues then expecting the guests pay for their reception for them. IMO it's the epitomy of rude.
    Not only rude, but if you can't afford a 'nice enough' wedding, you don't deserve as much money??

    We almost always give art, so depending on what we find that suits the couple we can spend anywhere from $50-$500. The $500 piece was for a couple who got married in her mum's front yard, and her stepdad made pizza for everyone. Should we have given them a cheaper present? The $500 piece suited them perfectly, and was by another friend so it was win-win. I loathe the idea of paying the cost of your attendance and calling it a 'present'.

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    We always give around $100 or spend around that on a gift.

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    Quote Originally Posted by delirium View Post
    Agree. But then I think this is the pattern now in the last 10-15 years. Couples booking extravagant venues then expecting the guests pay for their reception for them. IMO it's the epitomy of rude.
    It's not only rude but dumb too.

    Who keeps tabs on the current costs of various reception venues to know the "appropriate" amount to gift? It never ever crosses my mind to equate venue with either gift quality or money gifted.

    So odd, you'd spend the whole night wondering if you'd "made your money back".

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