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    Bubs is almost 8 weeks and won't attach. They made me use shield in hospital for her to feed but they also made me top her up with a bottle after every feed as she was low weight.
    She's obviously not getting enough from
    Me as she's still taking what she should be getting in her top up.
    I've seen an LC who suggested I finger feed with syringe instead of bottling and try to latch her at each feed by hand expressing first. She gone on a couple of times but gives up.
    I've tried to talk to husband about my frustrations but all he says is that I'm negative. He doesn't understand!

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    Your lc is right. Ditch the bottle please otherwise your baby will prefer the easy flow of a bottle over your boobs. You can feed bubs EBM via a cup/shot glass.

    Have you had your bubs checked for a tongue tie?

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    If the nipple shield worked then continue to use it. Some bubs don't get it straight away and when they are a little older their mouths are strionger and can latch

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rose&Aurelia View Post
    Your lc is right. Ditch the bottle please otherwise your baby will prefer the easy flow of a bottle over your boobs. You can feed bubs EBM via a cup/shot glass.

    Have you had your bubs checked for a tongue tie?
    Ditto. I'm a bit surprised that they got you to top up with a bottle. When this happened with my son they used a syringe or little cup, then a NG tube for 36 hrs until I had enough milk to fully feed him.

    If you think you don't have enough supply have you thought about foods that increase your supply? Oats are great (good excuse to eat Anzac bickers!) I can't think of any others ATM but there are a few recipes for lactation boosting cookies here somewhere.

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    The early days of BF can be really challenging, frustrating and exhausting.

    You should be so proud of yourself that you have managed for this long with attachment difficulties!

    It is hard for partners to really understand or know what the right way to give encouragement and support are.

    Am so glad you have come here for support as there are some amazing women in here that have so much BF experience with all sorts of challenges.

    Have you tried using shields at home?
    Did they help with attachment?

    Another thing I would encourage is going along to your local ABA group meet ups. You don't have to me a member to attend. They are just other BFing mums and their bubs. It's a chance to talk to others and get help, just get out of the house. Plus there's always an ABA leader there who can give assistance while you are there.

    The reason the LC recommended syringe feeding top ups is because the flow from a bottle is quite different to BF and some babies just refuse the breast once they learn that it is less work to wait and take it from the bottle.

    My DS was doing exactly that and I found he was taking more and more from the top up. He was just comfort sucking on me and waiting for the free flow to feed. I went through 1 tough and tiring night where I just kept offering the breast without top ups and he got it. However I wasn't having major attachment issues.

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    The home visiting midwives told me I was wasting my time trying to use a cup/syringe so I started using bottle but now I'm so annoyed!
    The LC said I have a great supply.
    I've already spoken to the ABA and they told me to get rid of shield but without shield she won't get on me at all.

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    I was advised to do almost the same as you in hospital. I needed shields because my nipples were small and breasts firm, which meant DD couldn't get in close enough to latch properly, both of these factors improved and I would often start the feed with the shield, then take it off once the breast had softened a little. After a few months I didn't need them at all.

    I was also advised to pump after each feed, then top up her next feed with the EMB, if she scoffed that, also top up with formula - both from a bottle. I never had any issues with breast refusal and she happily switched between the two - every bub is different. Eventually I just couldn't keep up the expressing and would top up with formula only. My first few feeds for the day she'd be happy with just breast, but as the day wore on my supply got worse and the top ups bigger.

    I also ended up on motilium to help my supply. I possibly could have made it better with the whole expressing routine but for my sanity I just couldn't have my breasts in demand for that many hours a day. DD was, and still is at 5, a slow eater!

    It is hard, especially as there is so much conflicting advice due to the fact that every baby is different. I was so stressed about advice that DD would never feed without a shield or never go back to the breast once they'd had a bottle (err, after I'd already been mixed feeding for months?!?) or any number of other things. It sounds like you're good at reading your bub and doing a great job meeting their needs.

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    If the shields were working for you I would go back to them.

    As a pp has said there will likely come a time when bub knows how to attach easily and your supply has settled and you'll no longer need them. In the meantime though do whatever is working for you and your baby! 👍

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    I was at an ABA meeting recently, and there was a mum using nipple shields. she was asking the counsellor for advice on how to stop using them, and the counsellor gave her some ideas, but also told the mum that it is ok to keep using them if that is only way to keep feeding, and some people use shields for 12 months or more. the modern shields are more flexible and still allow the breast to be stimulated. try the ABA again or the LC. Breast compressions might help to encourage baby to keep feeding . this blog has some good info http://www.koraorganics.com/blog/liv...super-sleeper/ keep asking questions, you and bub will get there

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    Well she just attached for 10 minutes. Better than nothing!

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