Op has stated that staying home is not an option for their family financially which is a reality for lots of families (mine included) so maybe telling her its a cruel or whatever thing to work is not warranted in this particular post.. Any who op I work two days a week but was lucky to get a job outside my dp hrs. So he finishes and I fly out the door lol. This means no childcare costs ect. It's hectic at the best of times and sometimes heart breaking but it pays the mortgage! It's also far from my career but my career didn't have suitable hrs!