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    Default Why me moment

    Today I had a "why me moment". My sister in law who I love as if she was my blood sister, told us her good news today that her and her partner of 7 months are pregnant. She's the same age as I am, has the same chances as we have, just the two of them were lucky. It wasn't planned, it just happened. My partner and I, together for 5 years, just haven't been that lucky. That's life, I know that, and self pitty is a time waster. I envy her, of course I do, I'm not jealouse, I am happy for her and wouldn't want it to be different, she deserves this just as much as as I do, or any of us. She was lucky. But I still want to cry.


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    My hubby's best mate's wife just had a baby this week. I had the same feelings. It's really annoying and you're happy for them but u do wanna bang ur head against the wall and say 'why me?'

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    *hugs* it sucks doesn't it? My SIL and I fell pregnant at the same time, unfortunately I miscarried while she carried on to term. There will always be a part of me that is bitter over it, but of course it's not her fault, so there's nothing I can do but vent in private places like this.

    So let yourself have a bit of self pity, it's completely understandable!

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    We all feel like that, then feel even worse as you feel bad you have felt that way. I just learnt to smile and act excited and have a cry/pity party in the shower!

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    Thanks Ladies, yeah the vicious circle of feeling bad for feeling bad. And then it's stuck in your head and you think and think. Funny thing is I can't even really cry, I'm just frustrated, then think I shouldn't be and just relax. So now I have to try and allow all the feelings good and bad to just flow and do what they meant to do and then get on with it. Oh and I am excited for them, I'm pretending, but yes I do hide the hurt.
    Thanks again Ladies, big to all of you.


 

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