View Poll Results: Do you feel at all 'better' than those who have different fathers for their children?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kimberleygal1 View Post
    I totally agree with all you have said.

    For me, dh and I were together for years before planning a family. We knew each other through and through. We had a happy, healthy relationship and marriage well before bringing someone else into our lives. I never for a moment expected my husband to change when we had kids and he didn't, why would he?? I knew dh was the man I wanted to be with and he would be a wonderful father to our children. Our marriage has and will always sustain anything because its the type of relationship we have.

    So, Am I better than anyone else? No I'm not necessarily but I do believe I made better choices and am grateful for the life I have.
    And sometimes it's just the way the cookie crumbles. We have women on this very forum who had long, established relationships, who had endured a lot together and then it all changed.

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    Quote Originally Posted by misskittyfantastico View Post
    I am absolutely gobsmacked that someone would ask someone else if their children have the same father!
    I get Asked all the time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blossompossum View Post
    Not going to lie about it.

    Yes I do
    Why?

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    I would have a few years ago, but now l have a sister-in-law who has children with different fathers and she a great mother to her kids. She is so devoted and caring to her kids and knowing her situation l realised that some people may have made poor selection of partner in the past, or been in some bad relationships but if they learned from the situation then l actually look up to them.

    It really made me rethink the stereotype l had of mothers with kids to multiple fathers.

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    Quote Originally Posted by anewme View Post
    I get Asked all the time.
    Who asks you? Do people not have boundaries anymore?!

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    I don't think it matters. Well not to me anyway. As long as the children are loved and cared for, that's what matters!

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    Quote Originally Posted by misskittyfantastico View Post
    I am absolutely gobsmacked that someone would ask someone else if their children have the same father!
    Me too. It's never occurred to me that anyone would actually think to ask.

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    Quote Originally Posted by misskittyfantastico View Post
    I am absolutely gobsmacked that someone would ask someone else if their children have the same father!
    I get asked all the time. I guess i just must have 'that' look about me??

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    Quote Originally Posted by misskittyfantastico View Post
    Who asks you? Do people not have boundaries anymore?!
    Random people, shop keepers, mums at school or at the park etc...

    People tend to think

    a) that no one has big families anymore unless they are the his, hers and mine blended type.

    b) that having big gaps mean new partners. I have 19yr old and a baby and a few in between.

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    Quote Originally Posted by anewme View Post
    Random people, shop keepers, mums at school or at the park etc...

    People tend to think

    a) that no one has big families anymore unless they are the his, hers and mine blended type.

    b) that having big gaps mean new partners. I have 19yr old and a baby and a few in between.
    I get asked by anyone and everyone too but i only have 2. I'd say the judgement i get is on the basis of age though.


 

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