So this is a big lengthy...
Bit of back story - BIL has a 4 yr old that he has hardly seen due to the mother being difficult. FIL refuse her as a grandchild demanding a paternity test even though he looks exactly like BIL.
Ok so my partner started a new job doing FiFo work and he decided I should move in with his dad and brother to help us save some money. I was ok with the idea since it ment me and the kids would be closer to my family and also all our friend. (We were 3 hours away from everyone)
So we move in and everything is alright for about a month. But the FIL starts getting annoyed at the mess the kids make, the noise they make. He starts making comments about how I am always out all day "living a life of luxury and spending all his sons money" - when in fact I was seeing friends or taking my son to the library park etc just so I wasn't in his hair.
Anyway - fast forward a month and BIL goes to court and gets access to his daughter. He saw her once and apparently she is the smartest 4yr old ever and he starts comparing her to my 5yo daughter ad saying how stupid my DD is.
The next night BIL and FIL got drunk and went on about how stupid my daughter is (she is not biologically my partners so not a blood relation to them) how smart BILs kid is. How my son will be raised as scum like me and my Dd.
The next night he had a go at me because I told BIL not to threaten my daughter and FIL lost it. He called me ever name under the sun, called me a lazy fat mole and every derogatory name you could imagine. Told me he would have my son taken off me and put into his care.
So since then I haven't gone to see him or take my son to see him. Df thinks I'm being unfair but I don't see why I should Take him to see him after what he said. It's not right and if it was anyone else I would have nothing to so with him at all....