my partner is anxious and stresses me at times that i most need quiet, comfort, peace
eg i had a car crash once. He was not in the crash. I felt so lucky to have someone to call who would come straight away.
But then when he came he kept shouting at me what he thought was important and wouldnt give me a moment of peace.
He was driving me nuts, bringing me to breaking point, causing me to shout at him
as i was repeating that i need quiet for 5 minutes to focus on gettting the car emptied before it was towed.
he would not shut up. He would not allow me the peace i badly needed to empty the car properly. He would not get away from me.
I feel so lucky to have a partner who is
trustworthy that he wouldtn steal or cheat
but untrustworthy that he will give me the peace i need in crisis situations
i feel so lucky to have a partner who is smart and helpful caring available
but he really can leave me so stressed so ill sometimes for days after by not respecting boundaries or being able to control his brain or anxiety
or i dont know what his issue is but its very stressful when it happens.
I give him peace when he needs it but his brain doesnt seem to hear to give it back to me
what can i do ?