I have had a few people around me that i can feel a bit stressed or bombarded by. Some the relationship is worth me keeping and some i stay away from .
One friend is so wonderful in many ways but gets anxious at stressful times , so instead of being gentle and calming they are bombarding at times that i most need gentle calming support.
Eg i had a car crash once and was so blessed that they came straight away.
But because of their anxiety they were shouting at me about what they thought was important and were making things so horrible for me.
I really needed them to step right away from me and allow me to empty my car completely before it got towed away. I needed quiet to focus on this. But he would not give me the quiet.
There are other situations like that again where they are really being stressful at times when i'm already overloaded or suffering and must have peace.
I know its their anxiety but what can i do to minimise these situations when he is helpful but there are times i need him to be quiet.
Maybe his brain is a bit manic or he suffers anxiety and i'm just asking for something he cant do ,
or maybe a counsellor could help but he gets too anxious re counsellors and refuses to see them.