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    Default im not coping.

    my 27mth old doesnt talk. she screams at me all day long.
    my 3mth old refuss to sleep any longer then 20mins at a time in the day. wakes up 1-2hrly at night.
    i had to get professional help to get both my kids to sleep.
    now i need professional help to get my dd to talk.
    dh works long hours.
    i have no other help.
    i cried for the first time in ages today because i could only see more negatives about my kids than the positives.
    whats wrong with me.
    i suffered pnd with my first. those feelings have all suddenly returned.
    iv been stuck in my pj's for 2 days becaus i dont get 2 mins to find sommething to put on for th day.
    i hate taking the kids out because dd just screams the whole time and its embarrasing.
    im stuck once again laying here with ds so he will sleep.
    the days go on forever and i feel like i have a constant headache.
    today i am deffinately not coping. i feel like i am the worst mum in the world and i cant even raise my kids properly.

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    No advice, only giant hugs. And the reassurance that you are an amazing mum.

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    You are NOT a bad mum, just a normal one. We ALL go through rough patches.
    My 22 month old DD has been so clingy and sooky for weeks and driving me nuts - I'm also pregnant with baby 2 (25 weeks) so ill be in your shoes in a few months. Im sure its not going to be easy!

    Have you been to a GP? I know it's probably hard with DH at work but maybe there's a clinic open when he is at home?



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    I'm feeling the same way atm with my three, similar issues similar pjs all day and feelimg unable to cope a lot. It is so hard sometimes and you start to hate waking up in the morning. Go talk to your GP asap so you can get some help in how youre feeling hun and take any support you can get. Big hugs x

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    hugs it will pass. i know the feeling. i have a 3 mth old with severe reflux, but apart from that, found a baby swing helps relax him otherwise... then he falls asleep in it. my 2.5 year old hardly talks too. it's a gibberish one word rubbish. i find it frustrating. his 4 year old sister talks alot for him too so it doesn't help.

    jump in the shower, wash your hair, dress up nice, find a babysitter and go to the movies. i think you need a little break.

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    You poor thing! I have a 7 week old who I'm really struggling with at the moment due to the lack of day sleeps, like your bub she'll only sleep if I'm holding her at the moment. It's almost 2:30 and I'm still in my pj's, and I probably won't get out of them until I have a shower tonight. So I can't even imagine how tough it must be with more than 1 who is hard work!!!

    I was just thinking I might start going to a yoga class one night a week. That way I have my "me" time to look forward to each week, it's a form of exercise and is relaxing. Win, win, win. Speak to your hubby to see if he's on board with looking after the kids for an hour or two while you do something similar.

    Good luck and I hope things improve for you very soon.

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    the little sleep i get doesnt help things. the tiny amount of time alone i get isnt even worth it. The place falls to **** when i sneak off for a nap when dh comes home. ive given up on housework and cooking.
    Aftter ds has been awake all day so far i finally battled him to sleep. i heated up my first meal of the day, sit down about to eat when i hear dd is awake. There is no time for me.
    ive thought about daycare for my 2yr old's speech - dh is only worried about being out of pocket because we are struggling on one wage atm. He will only give daycare the green light if i get a job. I CANT WAIT UNTILL I CAN GO BACK TO WORK. Im so sick of being a mum 24/7 with the crap i have to put up with. i cant wait to escape to work and stay there as long as possible like dh does.
    I dont even have nice clothes. they are all cheap clothes that shrink in the wash, get pilling on them, tear easily, loose a thread and have runs thru skirts.
    Even my track pants are k mart ones i brought 3 years ago. they have paint stains and scruffy bottoms on them. i even hate wearing them around the house. DH is constantly telling me to stop dressing like a bum. i have a good body so dress it properly. Well the things i could say to that i just bite my tounge. money.....time......money.......trying on clothes with kids......money.
    argh. humph.

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    You sound very overwhelmed right now. Do you have a mum or sister or a good friend to help you with the kids or just to be able to talk to about what's going on?
    Getting some exercise can be great for de-stressing and lifting your mood and energy levels. A walk in the pram could help your little one sleep and your toddler burn off some energy.


 

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