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    Default Help with settling!!

    Hi there,

    I have a 3 week old (which I know is still very young) but he doesn't let me put him down at all. My husband just went back to work today so not that I got much done before when he was home but I feel like I can't get anything done. Today it took me all day just to put a load of washing on not to mention how I am going to manage to hang it up <img src="images/smilies/frown.gif" border="0" alt="" title="Frown" smilieid="11" class="inlineimg" I can't even get myself something to eat he knows when I have put him down even when he is asleep and just wakes up and cries. I know he is still quite young is this normal for them to go through this? If not how can I teach him to let me put him in his bassinet?

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    Have you tried baby wearing?

    I had the exact same frustration with DS at that age. He only wanted to sleep upright on my chest.

    Then a friend lent me her baby carrier and I suddenly felt liberated again!

    Sure I was still exhausted, as I couldn't sleep while he was in it. However I could now make my lunch and eat it, do loads of washing etc all while he happily snuggled or slept.

    Hugs, it is a tough time in the early months!

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    I have thought about that but havnt tried it yet. Those baby carriers are so expensive but might be a good investment. I'm worried he will get used to being on me all the time though do u think that's something I should worry about?

    Also what do you normally do at night times? I seem to have to be near him all the time for him to sleep

    Thanks xx

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    I was just going to ask if you have a baby carrier? (as above) Your little one is so new to this world and spent the last 9 months constantly carried and rocked by you so it is only natural to want/need you.

    Something else to consider is to lay down with bub while he goes to sleep (so in your bed) and once he is asleep if you don't dose off too. Sneak off to do some things around the house. * there are some great sleep positioners out there if your worried about him on your bed*

    And lastly, don't worry about the house work, it will wait! Your little one will only be that way for a short while and you need to soak that up. You will find moments where you can throw a load of washing on, have a nap, then put it on an airer over a few hours or hubby can hang it when he gets home. It will all work out!

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    I had my daughter in a cradle right beside my bed, when she went to sleep she would be placed in her cradle and I could get to her quickly if she was stirring.
    I semi co-slept with her, but she spent most her nights in the cradle.
    Do not worry about bub getting used to being carried at all. He is still so new and will change and develope so much over the next few weeks and months.

    Quote Originally Posted by Solly86 View Post
    I have thought about that but havnt tried it yet. Those baby carriers are so expensive but might be a good investment. I'm worried he will get used to being on me all the time though do u think that's something I should worry about?

    Also what do you normally do at night times? I seem to have to be near him all the time for him to sleep

    Thanks xx

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    A wise friend once told me to consider the first 3 months of a babies life the 4th trimester. They cope best when close to you.

    Having said that you need a happy balance that allows you to get enough rest to cope.

    Co-sleeping can be an option at night. If you are not comfortable with baby in your bed you can side car the cot to your bed. Then you can reach over and give baby your reassuring touch if they unsettle.

    My DS is not a great example. We ended up in sleep school as he was struggling to sleep even in the carrier.

    They aren't cheap which is why I would recommend borrowing one if you know someone who has one.

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    My ds is now 6 months old but I remember those tough early days all too well. My son would happily fall asleep in my arms but the moment I put him in the cot he'd wake up and scream until I picked him up again. By 9 or 10 weeks I was going out of my mind as he would have to be held literally all day. People would say stupid unhelpful things like "he's got you well trained!" I eventually Googled it and realized it's a classic sign of reflux. They hate being put down on their back as the acid comes back out of their tummy. It's super easy to fix - just pop some towels under one end of the mattress so it's on a 30 degree angle. First time I tried it my son actually didn't cry when I put him down - and I nearly cried in relief!! Worth giving it a try.

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    Thanks for all the advice. I have been trying co sleeping the last couple of nights and although I am getting so much more sleep as he only wakes up 2 or 3 times I don't want this to also be something he gets used to. He was staying in his bassinet over night for around an hour and I think I stuffed up by letting him in the bed as now he doesn't want a bar of the bassinet.. What have I done? I was just that exhausted that I needed to try something to get some sleep myself. Sometimes I just feel like I don't know what I'm doing at all
    I will have to buy a carrier and give that a go for day times though as I don't know anyone that had one at least hopefully then I can get a few things done during the day.

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    He might like the sound of your heartbeat. You can buy devices to replicate heartbeat and womb sounds that might help. I have always found whitenoise in the background helpful in settling bubs.

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    I spent the first few months stressing about creating "bad habits" not getting a chance to love having a newborn. Habits don't tend to form till they get a little older, so co sleep, baby wear as your little one gets used to the big world. I used a baby swing as well. My little one (now 9 months) was a reflux baby so didn't like being flat either, so good suggestion of inclining the bassinette a little. It's exhausting those first few months and does get easier. I remember not believing friends when they told me that at the time - but it really does. You are doing an awesome job!!!

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