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    Default Hints to reduce stress, get rest, and time out with so much that goes on in life.

    Life is busy with kids, partner, maybe work, and women get grumpy when they are overloaded stretched to thin have too many expectations, eg work cook clean shop be a wonderful partner and parent socialise work lose weight look beautiful etc etc


    I'd like some hints please for how you


    communicate your needs to your partner
    reduce stress
    pace yoruself
    take shortcuts
    create more time for yourself to rest or do what you enjoy
    communicate when you are feeling overwhelmed, pressurised, bombardment exhausted
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    relief understanding time out rest support


    I'm wondering if anyone has seen what makes their moods go up and down and found ways to minimise that maybe by preempting and communicating well about when you feel stressed and what you need.

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    I have Friday nights off. Doesn't matter what's happening I can come home (or not) put my feet up, if the family starves or goes to bed with shampoo not rinsed out of their hair - whatever, that's not my problem. I have learnt to switch off. I study full time online, have a three year old, work part time, do all of the shopping, cooking, laundry and most housework too, so it's my time.

    Dh has water polo three times a week so he gets his time out too, dd says oh-oh tuna pasta Friday again!

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    Oh - and communicate in plain English. If you want the rubbish put to the kerb, ask "can you please put the bin to the kerb?" Most times you will get a "yep, sure". If you stomp around doing it and getting grumpy about it, you will come across as just being grumpy (and no one noticing the bin moved!).

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    Realized how nasty this was. apologies
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    Dont worry if things have to be neglected for you to have some time to yourself. This is the key, if you dont look after yourself, no one will. Take some time out to read, have a bath, a nap, whatever. If that means you dont do any washing that week, so be it. Every now and then I like to leave my washing, then one day do 5-6 loads. I then sneak off to the laundrmat and put them all in the industrial sized dryer pay $6 and read a magazine for 30mins. I then fold it straight out of the dryer. I get it all done, have some me time and it takes a bit of the stress out of my week.
    Hope you find what works for you!

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    Quote Originally Posted by JD Mumma View Post
    Dont worry if things have to be neglected for you to have some time to yourself. This is the key, if you dont look after yourself, no one will. Take some time out to read, have a bath, a nap, whatever. If that means you dont do any washing that week, so be it. Every now and then I like to leave my washing, then one day do 5-6 loads. I then sneak off to the laundrmat and put them all in the industrial sized dryer pay $6 and read a magazine for 30mins. I then fold it straight out of the dryer. I get it all done, have some me time and it takes a bit of the stress out of my week.
    Hope you find what works for you!
    Seriously love your thinking ! What a clever idea.

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    I have no answers but subbing for ideas.

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    tell me when you find out. I really struggle with when I do carve out a little smidge of time for myself, family and friends seem to have a sixth sense and choose those times to just "pop" around to say hi without a phone call, thus lampooning any chance I had at relaxing. I feel like screaming inside because I just need some downtime (I'm pretty introverted so socialising for me is hard work) but the right thing is to be nice and welcoming and I am genuinely glad that they care enough to want to say hi.

    I am daunted that provided this baby comes on time (i.e. not early), this is the only time in my entire life where 1) I wont be working full time AND wont be looking after kids, and 2) I have a pretty solid excuse to turn down invites and make people feel like they should probably give me some space.

    Sometimes it makes me so anxious and stressed out I feel like I am just going to flip it.

    Oh and to carve that time out, I have basically neglected serious amounts of house work. There are parts of our house that I have not touched since we moved in. 3 years ago. They seem to reach an equilibrium level of dustiness, I dont like it but I have learned to care less.

    I love the laundromat idea... I might steal that one some time soon.

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    In terms of communication and stress, look at the info on assureprograms.com.au in their download section. They are my employer's EAP provider but the online stuff is free and gives you some good tips on some of your concerns.


 

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