It's dd1's birthday comming up and I'm bit unsure about if I should invite a particular family member and their kids.
On one hand, I don't want too- We don't see them regularly, could see them alot more except this family member's life is pretty messed up and all they do is complain but take no steps to fix it.
I know if the family member comes me and my cousin will be left looking after their kids, so I won't have much time for dd.
They live in foul conditions and are always in dirty clothes (i'm a very messy person so for me to say this its really bad) and the young kids always smell of dried urine. I try to help, but it's really depressing and I find that I take on too much of the family members crap.
I have long suffered from depression and have been trying no meds, and honestly it drags me back down seeing this person.
On the other hand, it's not the kids fault what they were born into. I'm pretty sure growing up they are going to be excluded from social events and play dates. I feel bad for them
So what would yo do? Invite them despite the issues with the parent? Don't invite them and feel a bit bad for excluding the kids?
I should add, government agencies are awear of the situation, so despite the kids living in absolute filth they are deemed safe, in case anyone is concerned