I can also highly recommend doing a calmbirth course. I did it instead of the hospital birthing one and loved it, it was reassuring and empowering and advocated birthing as naturally as possible but went through all the pain relief options. My dh found it really good too.
I only put on baby weight with Grace, but breast feeding for 15 months did NOT help me loose any more!!!!! I wish!! I ate to many biscuits and cakes with visitors after and had a terrible recovery that prevented me from doing any decent excercise for about 6 months Disney, sounds like your body is telling you what to eat/not to eat anyway!!