Thanks Beta it is hard!! I think what I believe is my little bundle needs to self settle but I don't want to use controlled crying to achieve it...so I'm going to try a kinder method which was suggested my the cafs nurse. She said to me it's better to get them to learn to go to sleep without rocking now than in 6 months.
But that's just what I think is right for me and ivy and as I have seen many others have their own things that work for them. I'm still nervous to try this but feel it necessary to teach her we can't rock her to her every sleep and at the moment that's her sleep association.... she is a sleep fighter and very alert
Anyway being a parent is hard and I was judgmental on others before coming a parent, but I will no longer be like that, I think you just to the best you can and its bloody hard!!!