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    I feel very guilty for saying this when I know you are in such high depths of depression but I feel that your DH has tried to be patient and understanding all the while it seems you have been turning to another man and whilst I don't find it right that he may be gaining interest in another woman it is understandable. Take screen shots of your conversations with this man email/text them to someone who you trust will keep them safe and not let you access them unless needed for legal and/or health reasons, after that delete everything, his contact details his messages everything don't worry about his report because even if he does write one that does make you sound crazy you have the proof in those messages (which is why I said someone safe) that he took advantage of the situation. After you have deleted everything instead of using all your energy thinking in terms of needing him to make you feel better use everything in you and focus on repairing the damage this has caused to your little family, if you feel your DH is tired of you being depressed start trying to have fun with him and your little girl again. You love them and they love you so focus on them.

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    I agree with mrsharvey - it sounds like you're addicted to him/his support. I've been addicted to something before and in my experience, to recover you need to break the cycle. Do whatever it takes. An inpatient program would achieve that because it would literally take away your ability to contact him. I know it sounds scary but what's your alternative? Keep things going the way they are? My heart goes out to you, it really does, but you need to break this cycle, heal, and get on with your life. Your daughter won't be little forever. If you don't get help for this, what will your life be like when your daughter is old enough to understand what's going on? And don't wait to see his report - you need to write your report independently and represent the facts the best way you can. Seeing his report isn't going to help in any way. It's not going to achieve anything.

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    I've been reading and can't not reply.

    STOP!! Please stop contacting this sick freak! I am also from Melbourne and if this was my doctor I'd be horrified!

    It's clear you love your hubby and daughter but right now you are not putting them first! You are risking losing your marriage, you are risking legal consequences, like a PP said he is toying with you to build his case, everything he says to you is an utter lie!!

    Be strong, be strong for your daughter, how would you feel if it was HER in this situation?!?! It is SO inappropriate of him, I am so angry at this low life of a 'doctor'.

    You need more help darling, call your physc ASAP! I wish I could come and give you a big hug!!

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    Would it be possible to contact your telco & see if you get outgoing contact to his number blocked from your phone?

    *hugs* I can't imagine what you're going through right now

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    I don't know if this is the right thing to write, but if your daughter was in a similar position when older, what advice would you give her?

    You'd probably take her phone off her and disallow any contact with the other person right?

    So as hard as it is, try and do the same. Delete his number, give your phone to your DH or psych and go from there.

    Be the best person u cam be for YOURSELF and for your daughter. Make yourself proud and give her a great example of how to deal with such a life challenge!

    Good luck xoxo

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    Wow I just read this whole thread but start to end.

    I'm so sorry you are a victim and suffering like this. It is true you had/have some mental health probs which was the exact reason you were seeing your gp to begin with

    Maybe he isn't a monster, maybe he gen cared for you and gen had feelings for you. But he had a duty of care to not act of them. If you were mentally well as a dr he should not act on them but given your anxiety and depression he was completely out of line.

    Now that you have reported him he has shown that whatever feelings he did have for you do not compare for his need for self preservation.

    Regardless of how gen it may have been in the beginning (even tho wrong) now he is trying to save his own butt.

    Don't be fooled I work in finance and insurance and in yet to come across a gp who doesn't earn more then $250k as an absolute min per yr. he has money, kids, a wife and a reputation to protect. He has stuffed up in the worse way possible.

    If he gen cared about your well being now he would be honest because he knows that would help you heal and get well. Instead he is trying to confuse you so you can change your report.

    Can you get a new mobile number. Give this phone and msg to your councillor and get a new number.

    Are you able to see that anytime you have contact while it fills you with comfort the outcome is that he gets a little closer to getting off the hook at your expense.

    I assume its hard for you to see or imagine him suffering because you care about it. But you have to put that aside for the immediate future. Speaking to him makes your mental health worse so for that reason alone don't do it. And avoid the temptation by removing his number and handing the MSG over.

    As for the practise manager what a slime bag. I would put money on it that this dr is a partner in the practise.

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    Even if you delete his contact details as soon as he texts you you'd have them again. You need to get a new phone.

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    OP - these complaints take years to be resolved. There's a very real possibility that a year down the track you are going to be no further advanced than you are now.

    How will you cope with that? If you can't cope with it now, it's only going to get worse.

    Deleting his number is a start, but it won't help you actually deal with the underlying reason why you can't let yourself out of this situation.

    You need intensive help.

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    Quote Originally Posted by delirium View Post
    He would be keeping all your texts, where you are contacting him first, building a case that this is you pursuing him, that you are mentally unwell. That he has ceased contact with you and you won't stop calling him.

    I also think maybe you could benefit from more intensive support either as an in-patient or appointments several times a week with a psych.
    Couldn't agree more re building a case. I might have missed it OP but who made the first contact after you collected your medical records?

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    if you won't delete his number, then give your phone (switch it off) to someone you trust and they can keep it for you. get a new phone with a new phone number. when the time comes to prove he has texted you, get the old phone out. but for now you need to help yourself before anyone else can help you. if this was your daughter in the same situation you would probably be telling her the same thing..

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