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    Quote Originally Posted by Undercover001 View Post
    Maybe I am really naive or oblivious here but intensive inpatient treatment... It sounds full on & scary.. If I deleted his number I would have no way to contact him & soon I will do that. Wouldn't that be the same...?
    I think what ppl are trying to say is you sound like you need intensive therapy. More than what you are getting now. As whatever help you are getting now from your psychologist or psychiatrist doesn't appear to be enough to help you. If it was you wouldn't still be communicating with this horrible man. I would be asking your mental health doctor about inpatient treatment and if it would be suitable for you to de stress and remove yourself for awhile from the situation. It doesn't necessarily have to be scary.
    You have to ask yourself is what are you doing now working? Doesn't seem so so what else could you do to try get your life back on track....

    Inpatient care would offer monitoring so you cannot contact this man, daily counseling to address why you have this inappropriate attachment to this man and the time and doctors available to try other medications for your depression in a monitored environment.
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    He would be keeping all your texts, where you are contacting him first, building a case that this is you pursuing him, that you are mentally unwell. That he has ceased contact with you and you won't stop calling him.

    I also think maybe you could benefit from more intensive support either as an in-patient or appointments several times a week with a psych.
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    Maybe you are right. If I delete his number, which I can do after my psych photographs the texts tomorrow just incase... Would that be better to try first before an inpatient program.. I would have absolutely no means of contacting him then.. At all.

    i know how ridiculous I sound. I know.

    Please be assured, my daughter is being cared for, she is happy & I am not being a terrible mother. I am holding myself together for my princess.

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    I think maybe you need to think of him as an addiction, which is why you can't delete his number. The fear of knowing you won't be able to contact him is greater than your desire to end this situation.

    If you are in hospital, there will be people who can help you focus on this addictive behaviour and develop strategies to cope after you break this addiction. I believe hospital will help you.

    Also, please don't base your report on what he writes. I am sure you will be able to access the report in time, but he is manipulating you. How do you know the report he shows you will actually be the one he presents? Why would he be trying to help you when in his mind you betrayed him?

    I wish I could come to your house and flush that phone down the toilet!!

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    Get a new phone therefor he doesn't have your number and you don't have his. You don't need to see his report just write the truth in yours and stuff him. Save your marriage as I feel so bad for your dh he sounds like he has been more understanding then most men would ever be its time to give him all your energy and attention plan something for the future like a nice holiday together or something anything that you can both save and look forward to.

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    Quote Originally Posted by delirium View Post
    He would be keeping all your texts, where you are contacting him first, building a case that this is you pursuing him, that you are mentally unwell. That he has ceased contact with you and you won't stop calling him.

    I also think maybe you could benefit from more intensive support either as an in-patient or appointments several times a week with a psych.
    I get what you are saying, that's why I am keeping his texts too. They know I am mentally unwell, he is trying to say I wasn't. If he says I am, it just makes his case worse because, as the medical board says "a patient could take all of there clothes of and offer themselves to a doctor.. Or try to seduce them.. The patient has no legal or ethical obligation. It is only the doctor who does... " the medical board don't care about what the patient does, only the doctor. I am not suing him.

    I think you are right about more intensive treatment. I have already used my 10 Medicare funded sessions this year, I wonder if I can get more. I can really afford the $140 per week....

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    Quote Originally Posted by our3boys View Post
    Get a new phone therefor he doesn't have your number and you don't have his. You don't need to see his report just write the truth in yours and stuff him. Save your marriage as I feel so bad for your dh he sounds like he has been more understanding then most men would ever be its time to give him all your energy and attention plan something for the future like a nice holiday together or something anything that you can both save and look forward to.


    I feel sorry for my DH too. He understands how ill I have been & he gets why this has happened... He is a really great guy. Like I said, I don't want this man in my life for any romantic reason, I am not attracted to him, I am addicted to the "feel good" says it felt to have my doctor there whenever I needed, it would be no different male or female.. Please don't judge me for that

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    Quote Originally Posted by mrsharvey View Post
    I think maybe you need to think of him as an addiction, which is why you can't delete his number. The fear of knowing you won't be able to contact him is greater than your desire to end this situation.

    If you are in hospital, there will be people who can help you focus on this addictive behaviour and develop strategies to cope after you break this addiction. I believe hospital will help you.

    Also, please don't base your report on what he writes. I am sure you will be able to access the report in time, but he is manipulating you. How do you know the report he shows you will actually be the one he presents? Why would he be trying to help you when in his mind you betrayed him?

    I wish I could come to your house and flush that phone down the toilet!!


    Haha Mrsharvey, please please do

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    I agree you need to delete his number and change yours so he can't contact you. Do not read his report, he will not show you the real one. Write your story without reading his and without any input from him.

    EVERY SINGLE TIME YOU FEEL LIKE CONTACTING HIM YOU GET ON BUBHUB AND TALK TO US!!!!

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    I feel very guilty for saying this when I know you are in such high depths of depression but I feel that your DH has tried to be patient and understanding all the while it seems you have been turning to another man and whilst I don't find it right that he may be gaining interest in another woman it is understandable. Take screen shots of your conversations with this man email/text them to someone who you trust will keep them safe and not let you access them unless needed for legal and/or health reasons, after that delete everything, his contact details his messages everything don't worry about his report because even if he does write one that does make you sound crazy you have the proof in those messages (which is why I said someone safe) that he took advantage of the situation. After you have deleted everything instead of using all your energy thinking in terms of needing him to make you feel better use everything in you and focus on repairing the damage this has caused to your little family, if you feel your DH is tired of you being depressed start trying to have fun with him and your little girl again. You love them and they love you so focus on them.

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