I also want to add, I am so so glad I opened this thread. I am utterly amazed at how many supportive, helpful people there are on here
If not, I guess at the end of the day the most important thing is getting yourself safe. Your psych should have a good enough relationship with you to trust your word, and if nothing else the shadow of doubt she(?) will now have over your GP will probably ly enough to stop her using him.
Hang in there. This is like an addiction for you, so take it day by day...
Thanks Vic park... I didn't know that, but now I do.. So thankyou. I still don't think I could do that to him.
& thankyou Mrsharvey..
Hi, I read some of this last night, and the rest this morning. I couldn't not reply.
While I haven't had depression or anxiety myself, I just wanted to point out a few things I've noticed.
I really think you are stronger than you give yourself credit for. Firstly, you have resisted his kiss.
I believe that the fact you started this thread, means that you are strong enough to recognise that there is something seriously wrong with his behaviour. Its not easy to step up and admit something like this at all. I would be so scared and afraid, but, you have shown great strength so far.
I do believe that you can break his hold over you, given the right support. And you are strong enough to get better, recognising something is amiss is the first step, and you have done this already! So well done.
Personally, If I were in your situation, i would reach out my hubby, and psych for a start. As hard as it is, these will be the ones to get you through, and they are probably just waiting for you to reach out.
I personally wouldn't create more stress for yourself by calling the police on him....just open up, being brutally honest, to your husband and psych for now....and let them do it. your psych would no doubt have a moral, ethical or legal obligation to report it, and it will also have more credibility coming from your psych. As pp have said, your mental health atm may be used against you, but it would be documented by your psych so essentially more evidence
Try not to think about your gp, as others said, he is not the saviour you think he is, he is not helping you, he is not making you better, he has breached all sorts of legal, ethical and moral boundaries, and he is preying on your vulnerability. Personally, I think he is also underestimating the strength you do have inside you!! Even now in the confused state of mind he has you in.
don't think about the consequences for him, as they are irrelevant to you. And he will be well aware of them..... You need to be really selfish here and only think of yourself and getting yourself better....
You haven't mentioned them, but I am assuming you are a mummy....so if you can't do it for yourself, you could do it for them....because they would need you and be missing you.
Take it one step at a time... Its not going to be an easy thing but I truly believe you have the strength in you to overcome this, it shines through in your replies very brightly....its already there. Just embrace it.
Good job on emailing your psych by the way.
You can do this!!
Last edited by shadowangel0205; 14-04-2013 at 09:33.
I have been reading through the thread and was really gobsmacked at this GP's level of deception and unprofessionalism. I work with doctors in my own job as a social worker and I would be mortified to hear this type of thing going on in my workplace.
As a doctor he has a very strict and comprehensive code of conduct to follow, aside from duty of care, patient code of ethics etc etc. Doctors are not our 'friends' as such- they are there to provide us with medical assistance. Of course it's great when they are compassionate and understanding but there is a real difference between empathy for a patient and 'being a friend'. This man does not have your best interests in mind and is, frankly predatory and unsafe. it may not feel this way but once you do start recovering from depression it will seem clearer to you.
Another poster wrote that this is grooming behaviour and this is absolutely correct.
You are the victim in this and I'm so glad you are starting to see this. Emailing your psych about it is a great start. Perhaps you should keep future texts in case you do report him to the medical board but in the meantime please access your existing network of family and professionals to help you untangle from this inappropriate relationship.
Good luck and take care.
((Big Hugs)) OP what an ordeal you have been through.
From the sound of your posts your Dr sounds like he is grooming you and messing around your meds for his own benefit. If he truly wanted to help you he would see the relationship for what it is 'inappropriate' and find you a fantastic GP to help you on a professional level.
You need help not dependency on a man who controls your medication (I find the fact he prescribes your meds scary tbh).
Does your psych know he assures you against her advise or that he took you off meds after 3 weeks? If not I really think you should mention it to her, this way you don't have to mention the attempted kiss ect but you let her know what's going on professionally.
I also had a yucky feeling when I read your posts the kind of feeling I get when reading/hearing about a child abuse case. Take care and try and depend more on your hubby and your psych than this "Dr".
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