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    Gee, that is so rude. I had that happen to me once, my sister.... lol. She didnt turn up. What a waste of 3 hours of my life. Wheb you are waiting for someone times passes slower, the kids go nuts because they are bored. You go nuts because you are bored. It sucks.

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    I so want cake now. Do you wanna send your Aunt over to visit me? :-D

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kiplusthree View Post
    A friend of mine's Dad who I don't know from a bar of soap and never socialise with just 'popped in' without calling/warning yesterday. I was backing out to go pick up my son from school early from misbehaving and was in a real mood/upset about it when I spotted him leaning over the car from the driveway.. Pulled up he said he brought biscuits and wanted a coffee :/
    I am sorry but that is just creepy. If you barely know him I wouldn't feel comfortable having him over either. Thats just so weird. I don't even really like being alone with DH's dad (he is a bit off since he had a stroke).

    But pushing yourself into someones private space like that is creepy> I think you have a right to be weirded out by it.

    I have to be honest, my first thought is he had an ulterior motive.

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    I would ring or text and see what was happening. I wouldn't wait around all day.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Little Miss Muffet View Post
    i had a friend and her dd "pop in" unannouned this morning at 10am because "we were at the shops near your house and we havent seen u in ages!!"....
    i was in my pj's, dd was still in hers eating breakfast. i was in the middle of vaccuming. ds wouldnt have his nap so was in his bouner grizzling. i stopped everything and just let her into my bombsite. not like i could tell her its not a good time, she was already at my doorstep and dd saw her dd ect.
    I wouldnt mind, but for an hr and a half she just sat there and looked around at the mess. all i was thinking was omg im sooooo embarrasd right now and i feel like crap shes seen me and the house like this.
    i dont like un anounced visits or ppl just popping in

    My hubby just told me that next time my mum or anyone else I suppose lingers around (by that I mean stays for too long, or pops in uninvited), you just get back to whatever it was that were doing, or had planned for the day. Be it cleaning or you have to go somewhere, and stick to it. Just say "Alright, well it was nice seeing you today.... and start doing what you were doing".. I have never done this, but I have had many talks with my family about random pop ins, and do still feel awkward saying that I have something to do with my time, or actually just getting on with my life and not worrying about unintended interruptions.
    My mum was brought up in a way where its normal for people just pop in...
    My hubby is completely against it, and thinks its just rude. Why not call in advance a schedule? Noone knows what you have planned for the day if they dont do this, if there is persistant ignorance towards common curtesy then yeah uts just plain rude. Even if you have nothing planned for the day, make something up and try to reschedule it. That might help to get the hint accross.... Does anyone have any tactics that they use without having to lie to invent stories and lie, anything that doesnt sound rude either

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    My MIL used to do this. Seems MIL had a knack of turning up whenever our sleepless bub finally got off to sleep, or I was in my PJ's without a bra and my hair not brushed or some other inconvenient time!

    MIL is in her 60' and in her day everybody just 'popped in'. Apparently.

    Anyway it got to the stage that I had no choice but to be rude. I am not a rude person in general but it got too much. I told her we actually have a life and run off our own schedule, not hers , and sometimes her timing isn't great.

    MIL didn't like it, but in the end got over it and now doesn't just pop in any more. It also helps that we moved 2.5 hours away from her

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    We also had issues with Auntys dropping in unannounced even though we asked several times for at least 10minutes notice.
    One Aunty dropped in on a weekend and my husband answered the door in his boxer shorts. She never dropped in unannounced ever again.
    The other Aunty was dropping in when DS was just a baby. I was exhausted and tired. I would let her in and sit there in a sleep deprived state and not offer a drink or try to tidy up.
    I know she meant well but I was so tired. Both Auntys have mobile phones. I think its rude not giving at least 10 minutes notice.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Little Miss Muffet View Post
    i had a friend and her dd "pop in" unannouned this morning at 10am because "we were at the shops near your house and we havent seen u in ages!!"....
    i was in my pj's, dd was still in hers eating breakfast. i was in the middle of vaccuming. ds wouldnt have his nap so was in his bouner grizzling. i stopped everything and just let her into my bombsite. not like i could tell her its not a good time, she was already at my doorstep and dd saw her dd ect.
    I wouldnt mind, but for an hr and a half she just sat there and looked around at the mess. all i was thinking was omg im sooooo embarrasd right now and i feel like crap shes seen me and the house like this.
    i dont like un anounced visits or ppl just popping in
    I would have taken advantage of her being there and told her to watch the kids so I could have a shower and would she mind having a cuppa ready when I got out!

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    I assume morning tea is around 10.30, but I think that's because I'm the parent of a young child. I wouldn't, for example, eat lunch around 12 normally if I didn't have a kid to feed... so maybe morning tea gets pushed back a bit if lunch is also pushed back? A normal lunch is about 1.30 for me, so 11/11.30 morning tea probably makes sense...


 

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