Background. I'm doing shared care with my GP. He is amazing. I love him to bits for his patience and thorough care as well as always being on call if and when I need something.
I had my booking app with the RBWH yesterday and it wasn't pleasant by any means. I understand alot of what they do is procedural but it was cold, unfriendly and honestly a waste of time. All I got from two hours of waiting was the orange book to take back to my gp and a few boxes filled out.
All of which I could of done myself. Ie weight. Details of first birth. Name. Family medical history. And the rest the midwife said my doc would do for me. I don't understand why they didn't just save everyone time and money and post it to me.
I found the whole hospital process to be very sterile and cold and am not looking forward to future appointments. The midwife seemed very judgemental when she asked why we didn't get the NT scan done. (We chose not to- which is entirely our right to decide)
And outright told me I HAD to get to the whooping cough vaccine and so should everyone else in my family when bubs is born. (Again a choice we will make at the time, it's not the law) I appreciate an educated opinion but I do not appreciate being told what to do without any reasoning behind it.
When I questioned as to why I needed to do some things ie sign a form to consent to a vaginal birth she just barked - its procedure. (I'm opting for a vbac- again she was very quick to tell me all about the increased risks and dangers.. Thanks for the support!)
Why do you need to know if my partner lives with me and why not if he doesn't?
- I don't see how this question relates to my or my babies health in anyway?
'It's just something we have to know.'
There was also a whole stack of forms about being in an abusive relationship and so on. I'm not. I love my DF to pieces. He is great. But even if I was I'm sure as heck not going to tick yes to all the boxes and get help from a cranky midwife I only just met am I?
So my question is- what happens if I cancel the rest of my midwife appointments? The midwives don't know me or my medical history personally. My gp does. I will continue to see him regularly for all relevant check ups and be monitored appropriately throughout my pregnancy.
Chances are I won't have any of the midwives I see in with me during my labour. So they will know nothing more about me than the orange book states. Again - my gp will fill this out.
I'm struggling to see the advantages of going to see them three times over the next 25 weeks when they will provide nothing more than my gp is already.
If I had never booked into the hospital at all would they still take you in and allow you to deliver there when in labour ? Surely they have to?
So I'm curious what happens if I cancel these midwife appointments at the hospital. If it would really make any difference to the whole process or would I be more advantaged by just going and accepting this is just the way they do things? Any thoughts appreciated.
Maybe I just got a grumpy midwife but it certainly hasn't made me excited about having bubs there. I don't want to stay there for long. If it wasn't for DFs concern I would be seriously considering a home birth. But he doesn't feel comfortable with that so I have agreed to go to the hospital. I plan on going in as late as possible during labour and discharging as soon as we are given the all clear.
Ps- thanks for reading my very long vent. : )