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    Have any of you considered telling your ex not to both with child support anymore?

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    My situation is a little different but I told my ex not to bother at all and spoke to the social worker about my situation and claimed an exemption so I wouldn't lose part of my FTB.

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    I am not worried about the FTB part, I just don't want the stress and hassle of dealing with it anymore.

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    Lol, my ex decided that long ago. I just let CSA do whatever now, I don't chase it up. I tried to cancel it but was told I'd have to apply for an exemption etc- too much hassle, so I diverted it to DD's account. One a blue moon a few dollars appear.

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    I never told him not to bother... he just decided not to bother and I haven't bothered trying to make him pay.

    Right now it means we're missing out on money that could probably help us, but that money would no doubt come with strings. I've seen how DD suffers when he flits in and out of her life at will, and am quite okay with the fact that he's removed himself permanently (as opposed to flitting in and out - ideally, he'd just man up and be a real father, but that's not going to happen) and don't want to give him cause to want to mess her around again.

    So I just don't bother with child support at all.

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    I think in a lot of cases the piddly amount of CS isn't worth the tension

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    With my first I never wanted child support so just told child support we were doing a private arrangement.

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    We currently have a private arrangement but he only pays sporadically. DD has to fly to see him and he asked me last year to take over organising flights as it was 'too hard', ie he doesn't want to pay all that money for flights. So I have had to fork out for flights and he sometimes pays me back.

    I'm quite over paying sometimes more than my weekly allowance on flights which he sometimes takes months to pay me back. So I am considering telling him to not bother with child support altogether and giving to flight organization back to him. So all he has to pay for is a flight every second or third month (DD has decided she doesn't want to go every month).

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ana Gram View Post
    We currently have a private arrangement but he only pays sporadically. DD has to fly to see him and he asked me last year to take over organising flights as it was 'too hard', ie he doesn't want to pay all that money for flights. So I have had to fork out for flights and he sometimes pays me back.

    I'm quite over paying sometimes more than my weekly allowance on flights which he sometimes takes months to pay me back. So I am considering telling him to not bother with child support altogether and giving to flight organization back to him. So all he has to pay for is a flight every second or third month (DD has decided she doesn't want to go every month).
    Good idea!!!

    We have a private collect....in other words means me collecting nothing. He has every excuse under the sun not to pay anything. But can go out and buy a new motorbike, snake for his new partners daughter etc etc etc.

    I would put your idea to him.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ana Gram View Post
    Have any of you considered telling your ex not to both with child support anymore?
    Me, I was at this point last week. Then got a call from CSA saying all owing will be paid by 20th this month. This is about $2000 and I will then lose that from my centrelink so I am still wondering what the point is.


 

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