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    Default *Spinoff - "Trapping" and child support

    Just from the other thread I have a question...

    My cousin has been accused of "trapping" her ex to fall pregnant. Ex "fling" is now saying he refuses to pay child support as he was mislead. She said she was on birth control when she wasn't (Im not sure if this is true). Is there a case against her or will he just have to pay up?

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    This is exactly what I was getting at but didn't want to be shot down in flames..

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    I don't think he has a case. There's no way to prove he was 'misled'.

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    I guess the thing is.. If he relied on the pill and solely the pill.. It's not 100%.. I suppose that's why they recommend condoms as well.
    I think he would have to.. But should speak to a legal rep anyway. But I'm guessing he would need to pay.

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    If she can prove the baby is his then he needs to pay. Whether he was mislead or not is irrelevant, he still had sex with her, sex can produce a baby (shocking I know lol).

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    Unfortunately his moment of choice is BEFORE sex, when he uses a condom. After that he has no point of choice left. Concequences attach. That is just the way it is and all men, if they don't want a child need to protect themselves. I work with a lot of young men (Teens and early 20's) and I tell them this all the time.

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    Yes, he would need to pay. I was reading about the proposed changes to abortion laws in tasmania and the report was saying that 60% of terminations are from pregnancies are conceived when at least 1 form of contraception was being used. I think accusations of 'trapping' are far more common than actual intent to 'trap'. I have a friend who thinks the mother of his child 'trapped' him, despite him knowing that neither of them were using contraception. How the hell is it then all her fault!

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    Quote Originally Posted by HippyGirl85 View Post
    If she can prove the baby is his then he needs to pay. Whether he was mislead or not is irrelevant, he still had sex with her, sex can produce a baby (shocking I know lol).
    This.

    As unfortunate as the situation may be, he also should have taken responsibility and used contraception. Especially if it was just a casual fling.

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    Also, child support is for the child, and they are blameless and definitely not guilty of any trapping....

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    I think the trapping thing is one thing, l
    betraying someone your in a committed relationship with or as a casual thing or one nighter, there's that whole issue that (I think) it's morally wrong for someone to do to another person.

    But people get pregnant by accident, on the pill, using condoms, things happen if you are having set you should be well aware that it can happen and be prepared for the consequences, whether in a relationship or not. If you aren't prepared for a pregnancy as a result of sex you shouldn't have sex. Whether you believe the other person is on the pill or if you are using contraception, nothing is 100% effective.

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