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    Quote Originally Posted by Benji View Post
    In the past I have felt incredibly trapped because I have been told yes to a baby, then no at the last minute. My son's father used to tell me all the time we could give DS a sibling, then he'd take it back. It made me feel trapped, and I believe he was being dishonest.

    I think having a baby with someone to 'trap' them is just as stupid as breaking life-altering promises such as yes I will give you a baby and then not deliever. Both will not make the person love you more but, in my opinion, drive them further away.
    This rings so true. I know two women who met and married in their early twenties with the expectations of children ' later on'.

    Fast forward 10yrs and both are still childless and divorced. One has remarried playing IVF roulette cos she left it too late. The other has gone down the path of sperm donation with little success as she is too old. Now out of money and time there is little hope.

    I can understand why some women would go down the road of deceiving their long term partners.

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    Getting pregnant on purpose to someone without their knowledge .... Jerry, Jerry, Jerry!!!

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    I also feel that it is such the wrong thing to do...

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    I think trying to make a baby without the knowledge of the other party is deplorable.
    It's not only unfair on the other parent, but horrible for the baby/babies.

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    Thinking about this topic some more, I don't think that it is black and white.

    If you are trying to get a man into a long term relationship by falling pregnant then yes this is unethical.

    However, if you are in a long term relationship, have been told initially that your partner wants children and then he delays it for years before saying no, is it actually trapping them if you fall pregnant on purpose?

    They are not really trapped, the relationship can end and they can move on with their life without giving the child a thought. I suspect that many women who fall pregnant this way would be less likely to go after the guy financially so he would not be trapped that way, and as he has taken off there is no responsibility of spending time with the child.

    It is easy to say that you would not do it when you already have children, but if you did not and you desperately wanted them I am not so sure that everyone's answers would be the same.

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    Quote Originally Posted by nicoletta View Post
    I think trying to make a baby without the knowledge of the other party is deplorable.
    It's not only unfair on the other parent, but horrible for the baby/babies.
    Children are born all the time to single parents (by choice or otherwise) and those children have perfectly happy and fulfilling childhoods.

    These days I doubt that many men would stay in a relationship where a child has been born and they did not want it.

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    My answer would be the same children or no children morally to me it's just wrong.

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    I think being a child who doesn't know their father would be difficult.

    I think being born without knowing your father because he didn't want you... And it was your mothers fault he didn't want you (by tricking him into conceiving you) is quite different.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MsTruth View Post
    However, if you are in a long term relationship, have been told initially that your partner wants children and then he delays it for years before saying no, is it actually trapping them if you fall pregnant on purpose?

    They are not really trapped, the relationship can end and they can move on with their life without giving the child a thought. I suspect that many women who fall pregnant this way would be less likely to go after the guy financially so he would not be trapped that way, and as he has taken off there is no responsibility of spending time with the child.

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    Yes it's trapping them. Its trapping them in a life they did not want and did not sign up for.

    The man will either feel:
    1) Obliged to stay with the ho-bag who got pregnant on purpose
    2) Obliged to pay child support and spend time with bubba after leaving said ho-bag
    3) Guilt for the rest of his life after leaving ho-bag and not 'manning up' for bubba
    4) Cop crap for the rest of their lives from family, friends, ho-bag after their guilt free abandonment of bubba.
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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Yes it's trapping them. Its trapping them in a life they did not want and did not sign up for.

    The man will either feel:
    1) Obliged to stay with the ho-bag who got pregnant on purpose
    2) Obliged to pay child support and spend time with bubba after leaving said ho-bag
    3) Guilt for the rest of his life after leaving ho-bag and not 'manning up' for bubba
    4) Cop crap for the rest of their lives from family, friends, ho-bag after their guilt free abandonment of bubba.
    Agree. Go use a sperm bank if you are that desperate. I agree its akin to a man forcing a woman to keep a baby she doesn't want. The difference is that that is (thank god) not possible.


 

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