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    Default Ethics of "trapping"

    I dont know what else to call this (falling pregnant on purpose without your partners consent). For singles its called trapping, but for couples i dont know.


    Would you purposefully try to fall pregnant if your partner was either against or undecided on having more kids? Assuming you already have kids together, what's another?

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    No I wouldn't. I find the idea of it appauling, to be honest.

    Eta: it also shows what someone thinks of their husbands if they do it and doesn't sound like a terribly healthy environment.
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    Absolutely not. For about 18 months before we both agreed to ttc our 3rd DH wasn't in favour of another one. I was devastated but accepted it. Then one day I broke down saying how much I wanted a 3rd and didn't feel 'done'. And he just looked at me and said ok, so lets have a 3rd

    If he had stood behind only wanting 2 though I would have gone with that. I believe nothing good comes out of falling pg against the others wishes.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Little Crow View Post

    Would you purposefully try to fall pregnant if your partner was either against or undecided on having more kids? Assuming you already have kids together, what's another?
    Well I would think "another" would bring added stress and financial issues. People usually have good reasons for not wanting children or not wanting anymore, and getting pregnant on purpose even though you know the other person is against it or undecided is horrible behaviour, whatever label you want to give it.

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    No and I frankly would think very little of someone who did do it on purpose.

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    Ugh, that's horrible!! Absolutely the wrong thing to do.

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    I know a few like this.

    1 I think she traps him and blames contraceptives. ( she is on her 3rd child now... There's no way you can make the contraceptive failed mistake 3 times without being a complete twit.)

    2 she got close to centre link telling her to bug off and go back to work with her first so then tahdah she is pregnant.

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    No way at all.


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    No, if you think this is ok, you should also be ok with your partner getting a vasectomy without your knowledge.

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    I try to be open minded. And i'm trying to see her side. But like you ladies, i just cant get past the fact that shes doing it against his wishes!

    Look, there are no financial ramifications for them. Their first was planned and their second was an accident. She was so devastated by that slip up she was going to terminate and he convinced her it would be ok. Now she's wanting a 3rd and he says 2 is enough, but she thinks if it just "happened" he'd be ok with it.

    I am unconvinced.


 

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