So my Mum wants to have my 5yo daughter for an overnight stay this Saturday night and I'm feeling uncomfortable about it. She has looked after DD heaps of times since she was born but after her marriage breakdown 2 years ago she hasn't exactly been reliable. It's hard to explain but she is a bit "off with the fairies" and will change plans at the last minute and be hours late to things and just doesn't make good decisions.
Anyway she is seeing a guy now who I actually like (after dating a few questionable guys) and she is living with him in his unit about 1.5hrs from where we live. I have only been there once and it is a small unit above a workshop and there would literally be nothing for DD to do there and I'm just not sure it's safe. I would rather my Mum come and spend the day with her but am finding it hard to tell her that.
I have tried to explain to her that she is 'all over the place' at the moment and I don't feel comfortable with it and she takes it personally as anyone would I guess. I thought maybe I was overeacting but when I told my husband he agreed and said 'why doesn't she just spend the day with here here?' He doesn't understand why she needs to have her overnight and why she can't just enjoy a day with her here.
I really just want to know how to go about telling her that she can't have DD overnight without it starting something? I'm 5 months pregnant and just don't reallt want the stress of an argument!