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    What happened to gift giving! All these we want money requests in fancy poems or what nots.
    I love gifts , I love the thoughtful ness of gifts and people putting their idea into what they think you need, want and like.
    It's way funner then money!
    $30 is reasonable

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    Pfft, what a crock. I'm so not into engagement parties, an engagement is a decision to get married, I don't see it as a gift-worthy milestone in itself.
    I would definitely shop around for a present. Something kitcheny or housey. Not sure if you have Matchbox where you are or if it is a wa thing but they are great for sale stuff.

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    SO agree with most comments, I think that's just plain greedy and in general I think engagement parties where presents are expected are an absolute crock. Why should you buy a present for both the engagement and wedding? Doesn't make any sense to me.

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    I'm all for engagement parties but I think asking people to cater and expecting gifts/money is a no-no!

    I had friends get engaged a little while ago and they sent a text to everyone with ideas of stuff to get them :-/

    I'm with the others; $30 is plenty or get a gift of similar value.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kelly8329 View Post
    What happened to gift giving! All these we want money requests in fancy poems or what nots.
    I love gifts , I love the thoughtful ness of gifts and people putting their idea into what they think you need, want and like.
    It's way funner then money!
    $30 is reasonable
    I kinda disagree, I think the world is already way too full of "stuff" and most people are trying to reduce the clutter in their houses, not add to it (I know I am!).

    Most people I know who have requested money for weddings have done so for the purpose of paying for the honeymoon or house renovations which i think are way more important and satisfying than 20 toasters you have to find space in the cupboard for.

    That said, I personally only like it if it is put as "we do not expect a gift, your presence is enough, but if you do still wish to give something we would appreciate a small contribution towards our honeymoon" or something like that.

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    I'm also not into engagement parties and agree with them being a bit of a gift grab as you give them a present for being engaged and then another at the wedding (which I love to give a gift/wishing well money for) but totally doubling up. Once gave a $100 cash present to dh friend for engagement (the requested money) and they broke up soon after

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    If its BYO drinks and a plate of food then to me that = no gift unless it was someone I was extremely close to. If it was my bestie or my younger bro then that would be a different story.

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    Quote Originally Posted by shelle65 View Post
    I kinda disagree, I think the world is already way too full of "stuff" and most people are trying to reduce the clutter in their houses, not add to it (I know I am!).

    Most people I know who have requested money for weddings have done so for the purpose of paying for the honeymoon or house renovations which i think are way more important and satisfying than 20 toasters you have to find space in the cupboard for.

    That said, I personally only like it if it is put as "we do not expect a gift, your presence is enough, but if you do still wish to give something we would appreciate a small contribution towards our honeymoon" or something like that.
    See I think honey moon can be more of a wedding present. Registry at flight center people put in money . Sorted
    Engagements are a gift giving event I feel. There's more than house hold appliances.
    I like the idea of giving something to someone that they may not have thought of buying for themselves.
    I like getting a group of people together and buying a more pricey gift someone may not buy themselves due to the cost ie: bed spread, 2000ct sheets, the most luxurious set of towels that are like $50 each that you never want to get out of, overnight stay somewhere, day spa gift vouchers , dinner for two at a fancy restaurant . Sometimes I feel the tradition of events and gift giving has been lost.
    I love buying gifts

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    I went to one just recently and I found it a little off - we had to travel for it and pay for accom but I also brought an engagement present worth $90 and drinks were $2 for basic alcohol so there was a tab and nibbles food. There was also a money tree/well.
    May be its me but I hope we get a thank you cause we went to a lot of effort and may be got 5 minutes to chat to my friend. May be cause I'm boring and pregnant now lol
    Oh well when we have our engagement party we certainly won't be asking for money or gifts and would provide everything but nothing flash.

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    Quote Originally Posted by shelle65 View Post
    I kinda disagree, I think the world is already way too full of "stuff" and most people are trying to reduce the clutter in their houses, not add to it (I know I am!).
    Actually I agree with this instead of my prev response (to get them a present). I would make a donation to a charity on their behalf, you know like getting them a metaphorical pair of chickens from Oxfam or something.

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