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    I honestly don't see why it's such an issue?

    I understand that in your family this may not be how she's expected to act, but try to keep in mind that in her family/ friendship circle, 1st birthdays/family catch ups aren't a big deal and people don't mind if you don't attend.

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    My sister in law is a horrible person. Treats me like crap. It's my husbands brothers girlfriend. My husbands brother is nearly as bad, but we have to tolerate them as we are in business with them. Dh has only just made the choice to have nothing personal to do with them anymore. He informed his parents (who are also in the business) that business and work won't be effected, but there will be no more Xmas, birthdays or family get togethers.

    you have to truly understand that this is HER loss. Your better than her and you can't be effected by her nastiness. You can't control her behaviours.

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    IMO she is being rude. I would be very hurt if my SIL did this to me. It's ashame she can't play happy families for a few hours.

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    Yep just sounds like a you don't particularly like her she doesn't particularly like you situation.
    I have that with my SIL, she wasn't going to come to her brothers 30th but got an ear bashing from her sister about it but then 2 months later didn't come to my 30th , I get a text two days before after invites being out for 7 weeks. I didn't reply, she knew I was angry and expected it.
    Then we all had dinner last week and my other SIL's house.
    Whatever if she doesn't wanna come Then don't stress your head over it. She can be a turd and you can be angry at the turd but no point flushing the turd away forever as it's just goin to cause drama and who wants that

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    I think it's rude. My SIL hasn't even bothered to meet our DD yet. She ll fly other places but won't fly here. It use to bother me but then with advice from BH members I stopped giving energy to the situation and it stopped hurting. She has no kids and has no other nieces or nephews so i figured she may just not be into babies and I have to accept that.

    Pisang just enjoy bubs first bday and don't let this ruin a very important day it's not worth it. Happy Birthday bubba

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    Im surprised at some of these replies i think it's very rude, in my family we respect each other & birthdays are very important so I get where you are coming from. If it were me I'd speak to my brother about it & explain you are hurt.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Piffle View Post
    I think you're massively over reacting OP and I think you need to stop being quite so precious about your son. The whole "stepping over the baby without saying hello" story makes me feel very sorry for your SIL!
    Picture this. You go to your SIL party. When u walk in u don't get acknowledged. For the whole night you are told one word from her. Hi. Your baby who yes is your world who u would expect your family members to say hi or give him a rub on the head even to say hi doesn't do a thing. Baby crawling around SIL steps over like he is a dog. Seriously that's me being precious? Far out that's bull. So u let your kids get treated like sh*t and your ok with that?

    Sorry about the others who have Sil issues too. It really sucks
    Ioco yeh I have to learn to get over it and not let it get to me. I'm sure that will happen in time

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    Quote Originally Posted by pigeonpairplusone View Post
    Im surprised at some of these replies i think it's very rude, in my family we respect each other & birthdays are very important so I get where you are coming from. If it were me I'd speak to my brother about it & explain you are hurt.
    Me too.. I thought lots of people thought family would go.. It's just a given.. That's how I was brought up anyway. If I didnt want to go I had to and I the end I usually enjoyed it. But yeh It's openin my eyes a bit anyway

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    It's very hard when you put love and effort into a relationship and get NOtHiNG in return. Or maybe you get disrespect. Not that you want that kind of something.

    Im sad for you.

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    Wow some of these replies are really harsh.
    Op I feel for you & have been in very similar situations with my SIL. Latest is she is not attending my DS's 4th bday party. Up until a few months ago my 2 kids were her only nieces & nephews but now she has a niece on her side & treats the kids very differently. There is no way BIL wouldn't attend her family bday parties. I'm sure BIL will end up not coming to DS bday either.
    I think the gist of it is that not everyone is as caring and thoughtful of family members & their special days. The sad thing is that those of us who are that way inclined would never treat their kids like they treat ours. Especially if you have a small family - SIL is my children's only Aunt, they have 2 uncles all live within 15 mins. IMO 'can't be bothered' is not an excuse to not attend your family's bday celebration especially a child.


 

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