I am posting this to see if anyone else has made a similar decisions as me ie. to by choice decide against getting an ultrasound due to the health risks it poses to the foetus/baby according to some well designed and documented Swedish studies/research papers.
According to these kinds of studies the benefits of getting the ultrasound doesn't outweigh the risk of getting it done for the developing foetus in the vast majority of cases as it has the potential to cause the baby minor brain damage, general tissue damage and potentially damage DNA.
This is because ultra high energy sound waves can heat and damage the tissues (much like you don't leave a mobile phone next to anything living too long due to the radiation except this stuff is higher energy- ultra high frequency) disrupt the functioning of the tissues and kill cells, cause bubbles to form in the fluid around or inside your baby etc. and other hazardous effects, especially the risk gets higher the longer its applied.
I really wanted to see the baby and my partner really wanted to get the 20wk check for gross abnormalities. But I have held out for the sake of the baby. I have come to realise to none of these scans are necessary for most people and also a multi-million dollar industry that the doctors assist in pushing (which most people are more than happy to go along with, I know I would be if I didn't know the risks as I am dying to see the baby).
I also have to acknowledge that children have been being developed and born (mostly healthy) for as long as humans have existed and that foetuses with gross or major defects (even sometimes those with minor problems) tend to miscarry as the per the course of nature anyway and that I should try to have a little faith that if my baby continues to grow that I hope/pray they will be healthy.
I also pointed out to my husband that the most commonly advised 'option' if they do find an abnormality on an ultrasound is to abort, and I explained to him I would not abort anyway. I feel like as a man he can't quite perhaps at least in his case understand that I am growing this child in my body and I would not deliberately harm it for any reason and I feel like he trivialises it. I get worried enough if I eat badly for a few days or lean the wrong way on the foetus let alone considering aborting the child because a blurry scan said they were not quite the 'right shape or length' here or there within a few mm.
For one thing half the time they "find" these abnormalities they turn out to be wrong and the baby is fine anyway. Let's face it, it's pretty obvious they can't tell a whole lot from a blurry old scan.
Secondly they only pick up things like down-syndrome 50% of the time accurately those are really bad odds for the risk of potentially harming a foetus just to find out there is a 50% chance they are OK or not.
Also if you have to know the sex, you can actually get a blood test that will tell you this, and as early as 7 weeks. No ultrasound required and much more accurate.
Lastly, if anybody out there makes the same decision as me don't let anyone guilt you into changeing your mind or make you feel like you are 'odd' for not doing what most people do these days because the doctor tells them to or because everyone else is doing it.
Think about that they also told women that X-raying the foetus was TOTALLY 100% safe, they told women this for nearly 50 YEARS. It wasn't safe, it gives the child a four times higher chance of getting childhood leakaemia and other illnesses. It took a determined (female might I add ) research scientist her whole career to have her findings that she spent most of her life dedicated to, accepted. Another research scientist paid by the industry actually spent years publishing papers to counter her claims and to the other researchers horror she watched the leakaemia rates in children and witnessed many children 'inexplicably' die for another 20-30 years after she knew the truth of the matter.
Think about it, these ultra high frequency ultrasounds are strong enough to penetrate flesh just like x-rays. You don't need to be a research scientist to know that ultrasounds HAVE NOT BEEN PROVEN SAFE.
If in doubt, protect your baby better than the same establishment that previously told you to have multiple x-rays of the foetus to 'check it was OK' in the very recent past.
Not trying to guilt people who have already or will do the ultrasound, just trying to give those you are undecided some information that is rarely talked about and somewhat hard to find to give the the power to make a more informed decision.
Good luck everyone not matter what choice you make (mother knows best I say ).
Have a great day and thanks for taking the time to read.