My sister & I had a HUUUUGE fight last night (over my parenting and my DDs behaviour) that ended with me packing the car & driving home (4hrs south)
Right now. I never want to speak to her again.
This is not the first time she has disgusted me. We never got along as kids (she used to physically attack me) but once we 'grew up' we tolerated each other in small doses & became good friends.
I have been thinking about cutting her off for a long time because she's very negative, never has a nice word to say about anyone, calls me for advice-ignores said advice & wants me to pick up the pieces time & time again.
Emotional vampire sounds about right. The thing is, I am very good at making excuses for her behaviour. Bad upbringing, bad circumstances etc etc but at the end of the day, she is an adult now (29yo) and still refusing to;
A.acknowledge how she continues to CREATE drama &
B.Show any real empathy to others
I feel sorry for her & I DO love her, but at the same time when I get off the phone with her I either feel physically sick, stressed, or really upset & she calls up to 4 times a day!!!
I've done everything I can think off to get her help, but after years and years of it falling on deaf ears, I think (for my own mental health) I need to cut ties.
We are not speaking ATM & I have deleted her number from my & DFs phone, but I am worried I will contact her again.
It's like ending a 27year long relationship. Can't stand her but don't remember a time without her.
Where do I go from here?