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    That would annoy me too. I think its ok to have a kid free party (I did for mine) but a seperate family friendly invite to have a cake would be nice x

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    I think it's ok to have a child free party or dinner or whatever but he needs to perhaps be a whole lot more tactful or employ a little more sensitivity

    Is it today? If you can't or would prefer not to get a sitter, could you go alone and leave DH with the kids?
    Call your brother, wish him a very happy birthday and let him know you are available for dinner or whatever it is and would love to go and spend time with him and your family.
    Life is too short

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lovemyfam View Post
    How would you have reacted if he said no kids? Its his life and he has the right to not want to spend time around kids. Just brush it off and move forward dont let it take too much time from you.
    Honestly, i would have jumped at the idea. It would have been nice to go out with out the kids. Its not about the fact that he didnt want the kids there...its his birthday, hes entitled to do what HE wants but its the fact that i wasnt even considered. I was completly excluded...not even invited/told about it. Thats what hurts.

    Its been going on since i fell pregnant with DD (over 4 years ago). He didnt wasnt interested that he was going to be an uncle. He wasnt interested in meeting his neice. DD (4 yrs) is afriad of him cos he just stands there like a wall and when she tries to engage him, he just says nothing. I mean, i do get it, some people dont like kids but this is family...theres a certain amount you do for family.
    Both my mum and his fiance always just brush it off and say 'thats just him, you know what hes like'. Ive had enough of that cr@p too.

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    Quote Originally Posted by loislane2010 View Post
    Both my mum and his fiance always just brush it off and say 'thats just him, you know what hes like'. Ive had enough of that cr@p too.
    Next time his finance brushes it off and says 'oh thats just him' ask her how she would feel if he acted like that to their kids. Maybe then she may see the issue differently.

    I think its really silly that they are enabling his behaviour. Really he is 30 years old, you dont have to like children, but you dont need to be rude about it. Its called empathy.

    We all do things we dont like in life....it shows how much we care about the other person in how we do the things we dont like for them IYKWIM.
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    Sheesh I wish I could be an a$$hole and get away with it cause 'that's just me'!
    What a ridiculous excuse for his behavior

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    Now let me preface this by saying I don't know whether this is the case or not...

    But is it possible that he just doesn't like YOU as well? Or how becoming a mother has made you (because it usually makes people change at least a little)?

    I totally get that it would hurt and why you're angry and whatnot, but it seems like such a simple solution to just let you know that it wasn't kid-friendly, that if he didn't take that option, it makes me wonder whether it's more than just not liking children.

    I also agree that you do certain things for family... I put up with crap from mine because I just put up with more from family than I would from anyone else, but I also know not everyone does that, it self-sacrificing like that tends to be something I see more in women than in men.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SassyMummy View Post
    Now let me preface this by saying I don't know whether this is the case or not...

    But is it possible that he just doesn't like YOU as well? Or how becoming a mother has made you (because it usually makes people change at least a little)?

    I totally get that it would hurt and why you're angry and whatnot, but it seems like such a simple solution to just let you know that it wasn't kid-friendly, that if he didn't take that option, it makes me wonder whether it's more than just not liking children.

    I also agree that you do certain things for family... I put up with crap from mine because I just put up with more from family than I would from anyone else, but I also know not everyone does that, it self-sacrificing like that tends to be something I see more in women than in men.
    OUCH. I get what your trying to say but 'maybe your brother doesnt like YOU'. ouch.

    I just feel like im always worried about what HE wants and making him happy cos thats 'just him'. I mean, i will do things for family that im not 100% keen on becasue they are family and thats what you do for family but when you dont get it in return it starts to hurt. He is very selfish and is always very vocal about not wanting to do something and most of the time refuses to do it. When his fiance makes him do something (like attend his neice's 1st birthday) he sit around with a sullen look on his face and wont even engage others in conversation.

    Im sick of it.


 

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