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    Thanks mummies what you say about processing is exactly like DD! It's as though most of the time she doesn't hear what's said & completely ignores requests, but if I get down on her level and (try) and make eye contact/speak slower, it's 'yes mum' and off she runs and does as asked (as long as its a simple request or she forgets/gets distracted)

    Yesterday I asked DF to take a step back (discipline wise as he can be quick to jump the gun) & just watch what I am doing and judge for himself if she is better behaved. He actually did this, and can now see what I am saying, he however has no idea how to 'stage' his requests = I'm still the translator. He will learn but he is frustrated.

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    Op are you seeing a child psychologist for your daughter? Let me just say they will be able to give you a much better understanding about what is going on and be able to work with you paediatrician for a much quicker diagnoses. My ds 4 sound very similar and we are very close to a formal diagnoses just waiting for our paediatrician appointment in May as the paediatrician gives the formal diagnoses after the child psychologist has done all the ground work.

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    Thanks our3boys, were only just starting she has a GP app on Thursday for a referral to psyc. KU said it is hard to get a diagnosis before 4 as its hard to distinguish some traits from normal toddler behaviour but they think she needs further evaluation.

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    you're sounding a lot more certain... and stronger. which is awesome. Don't let your DF stress about communication too much. Its great that he's taking a step back and seeing what works for you, and is thinking about it. He'll just need some time to practise until it comes naturally. The fact that he has seen it is a huge step.
    My son was diagnosed at four, but he was non verbal. but the usual spiel of getting the diagnosis signed off by a minimum of three different specialists was sort of made easier by being in the public system. He was already involved in Early intervention program, working with a speech pathologist once a week while at kinder. And it was just a meeting with a child psychologist, the speechie, and an occupational therapist and we had our diagnosis. It was bitter sweet. there's some hope in there that this is all wrong and he'll magically wake up tomorrow and be normal. but the head overrules by saying he needs this assistance from the health professionals and look at how quickly he's improving with all this help. He's at a normal school with a part time aide and talking extremely well now. now my hope has changed to he'll be able to be normal by the tie he finishes school with a few minor quirks that the girls will find adorable- which they already do. oops I think I took this over with my own problems. sorry and with the diagnosis and keep chatting to us.

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    No not at all thanks so much for sharing! I was just looking at DD today and thinking 'I wonder what this means for life'.. DF & 1 were talking about number 2 but now all the 'what ifs' have come up (what if number 2 is the same, what if dd needs x y z apps = $$$, what if she cant live a 'normal' life what does that mean for her & our family plans) We will defiantly be waiting until we have some idea of what we can expect for DDs future before committing to having another but hearing how well your son is adjusting gives me a lot of hope so thank you!

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    I think the most cost has been prior to diagnosis... DS is now eligible for funding through various grants etc. So we have some money to spend on an Ipad, and I belong to a few groups on facebook who alert me to free apps that will help him. Truth be told, DS is actually our easy child. We know what set him off, and we know what to do to calm him down. He doesn't winge or whine... and is happy playing by himself. The hard part is always family expectations. I'm on guard around family because they have this thing where they think they know best sort of thing... last weekend it was a ponytail in his hair. I had to physically protect him from getting it taken out for the first few minutes until they realised that it wasn't coming out- and don't touch. Non family just looked at him and asked if he had older sisters.
    Raising him isn't actually harder, its just different. Different opportunities, and different disadvantages. One of my friends who had a neurotypical son and an autistic son said that her neurotypical son was the harder one. He just was so busy!!!

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    My family too! Hence the original post

    They're so quick to label her as naughty. I've told them they need to ask like this etc but they don't listen & then complain when she screams.

    I feel really sorry for her sometimes, yesterday my sister was 'telling' her to do things & 'punishing' her for throwing tantrums. In the end I told everyone to 'leave her alone! She doesn't understand!' Packed the car & left.

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    sometimes thats the only thing you can do fitchick. and sometimes its the most important thing to do - stand up for your child when they need you to.
    Well done!!

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    I am so impressed at how you've got her back! Good on you mum.

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