DD is being evaluated for a behaviour disorder & I am struggling to cope with the way other people are responding to her.
There's no denying she's mostly 'out of control', and I seem to be the only one who is able to get her to co-operate without a fuss (most of the time)
I don't want to excuse her behaviour (and I don't, she gets time out) and without a diagnosis, I don't want to go around saying 'she has x,y,z' but she's only 2.75yo, a diagnosis could be years off! What do I do till then?
We are on holidays with family at the moment & I've pretty much attached myself to DD to defend/translate to her.
Dd has gotten in trouble (off relatives) today for so many things, eg not sharing, not following instructions & tantrums, she can and will share/obey without a fuss but only if she's asked in a specific way etc its hard to explain
To get her to share I have to say 'your turn first, then x turn, then your turn again'.. Can't just say 'x turn' or she has a melt down
To get her to obey, I have to give her options. Either a or b. eg no swimming, either sand pit or go inside & she'll pick, but if I just enforce 1 thing = melt down.
My family just roll there eyes at her behaviour & try and tell me what to do with her.
I am her mother. She's behaves for me (mostly) why do they think they know better?
How do I get them to understand she's a bit different (not a spoilt brat) & be patient with her? They're really make our holiday hell, DDs screaming a lot because they're imposing behaviours on her in a way she can't cope with/understand