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    Default Feeling very down. Just want to cry.

    Need to vent. I am so lonely. Everyone has friends and are off doing nice things. I am home alone with my children. I have asked all my friends if they want to catch up and I appear to be either invisible or the last on their list of ppl to see. My so called friends are constantly going out as a group but I am not invited. My work friends go out all the time but since one person doesn't like me I am the only one not

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    Invited... I put a lot of effort into making friends with work ppl to have one person ruin it. I have no siblings around to do things with... I just want to be included. I feel like I have begged for friends and that's degrading. I am a nice person. I am fun. But I just don't get it... I want someone to do things with.

    I have just had a baby 3 months ago. I have been very sick and been in counselling for birth trauma ...most of my friends haven't even asked how I am.

    Just very down and no idea where I will make new friends. People just don't understand how sad this makes me. Feel so very depressed and need to get back out there to lift my spirits.and get my confidence back as I have been housebound for the past few months except when I was in hospital. But looks like noone actually cares. I don't know what else I can do. I feel like I am stuck feeling like this forever

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    I couldn't read your post and not reply with something. I also feel like I'm on the outer all my social groups and my 'best friends' haven't called me in weeks.
    Is there maybe a new mothers group you can meet up with?
    Hug. xx

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    Huge hugs, that is awful. My DP often feels like he gets left out by his group of friends a lot. It's a horrible feeling. I don't know why they leave him out, he used to have loads and loads of friends, but many have dropped off and his inner circle have left him out quite a few times. I think it's a variety of things- different interests, different life stages and plain old geography. You should speak to them, tell them how you feel- they probably don't even realise they're doing it, or that you might like to come to some things.
    What about catching up with work people one on one, without the one nasty person? feelingg lonely totally sucks.

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    Hugs and hugs. I can sympathise and empathise. I had a small group of girlfriends that I used to go out with every weekend. Once I got into a relationship it was like they decided I didn't need to go out and have girls nights anymore so I didn't get invited out. Then I got pregnant and it seemed like their attitude was "oh she's pregnant, she won't want to come out." One of them even admitted that to me. I had my baby 6 weeks ago and once the initial excitement of them meeting her was over it's now "she's a mum, she won't want to come out or even catch up for coffee."

    It's frustrating that some positive life changes you make can alienate people. I feel very shut out by people that are supposed to be my friends, who seem to have decided that they know what I do or don't want.

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    Hi just wanted to send you some love. My son isn't born yet but because all my friends know he's sick and is expected to pass away etc they have essentially cut both dh and I off. They don't want to deal with what's happening to us because it seems too much.

    Perhaps your friends are struggling to relate? And don't know what to say they they avoid you?

    That's what I'm putting it down to it sucks and it's hard

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    I have told people on more than one occasion that I am lonely and asked to be included doesn't help... I shouldn't have to beg. My 10 closest friends including my sisters and sister in law have all moved interstate or overseas in the past five years.. And my hubby works a lot so it's usually just me and the kids. I do have a couple of friends who I see once every couple of months but they have their own little groups and despite me telling them how I feel they don't invite me to anything.... Instead I sit at home watching them all on fb posting photos and gushing about how lucky they r to have such great friends. Makes it all worse. Just have no idea what I can do now.

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    That's terrible ally.. Your friends should be there for you

    This started before I got pregnant... So not sure what caused it.

    I just think its unfair I should have to make new friends at my age. I am exhausted. What if they all just abandon me again

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    Hi op, I had the same issue with most my friends when I had my ds. Mostly my friends without kids.

    Can you join a mothers group or playgroup? I had reservations but i did as i was so lonely! I have met some lovely friends. I think it's a great way to meet new friends & best part is your all mums & all know what each other is going through & you can talk about bubs as much as you like (my friends without kids get bored of me talking about my ds)

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    This is my second..... My eldest is 5 and the mums group was great but they all moved away u don't get a mums group for ur second... I have been on a local forum for meeting other mums but in our area have found one for young mums under 30 or older mums 35+... I am in the middle.

    I know it sounds like excuses but I have spent 2 years actively trying to make friends with ppl with kids and I am right back where I was before. I don't know why ppl don't like me....i think I am just easily forgotten about


 

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