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    Quote Originally Posted by btmac View Post
    Having read quite a bit about the practice I decided it wasn't for me. I am not convinced that the motivations behind it are about teaching your child to be an independent self settler as opposed to satisfying a parent's own need for uninterrupted sleep.
    I agree with this. I will never practice CC as I believe I had a baby to be a mother, not to make him/her fit into MY lifestyle.

    The awful thing about CC is that the baby does learn to self settle, but only because she learns that it doesn't matter if she cries, no one is coming to meet her cries. So she gives up. That's just so sad to me

    That is obviously not a scientific study, just the opinion of a Mummy

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    *also I have to add that we have never had sleeping issues at night, however this very well could be due to the fact we have bedshared from birth. So I can't respond from a place of sleep deprivation either. My baby never liked sleeping alone so we just didn't persist with something that WAS going to make everyone sleep deprived.

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    Quote Originally Posted by btmac View Post
    I am anti-CC. My concern with CC is that the term does mean different things to different people. Which results in vastly different practices. As a consequence there are many who use the 'idea' of CC to justify their behaviour.

    Having read quite a bit about the practice I decided it wasn't for me. I am not convinced that the motivations behind it are about teaching your child to be an independent self settler as opposed to satisfying a parent's own need for uninterrupted sleep.

    To me there are much gentler ways to help your child achieve independent sleep. But that is definitely just IMO.
    Agree completely. Even after dd1s nightmare sleep patterns 6-9mths I have not and will not let my children cry themselves to sleep.

    I still hold my 2.5yr old dd1s hand as she drifts off and feed dd2 to sleep at 9mths old.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sarelou View Post
    *also I have to add that we have never had sleeping issues at night, however this very well could be due to the fact we have bedshared from birth. So I can't respond from a place of sleep deprivation either. My baby never liked sleeping alone so we just didn't persist with something that WAS going to make everyone sleep deprived.
    Yep. We bedshare too once there are more than 1-2 wake ups.

    I don't understand why ppl force babies to sleep alone when they can sleep so much better right next to mum.

    I guess that's why there are no sleep schools in non western societies.

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    I bed shared til 5 months but stopped cause neither of us was getting sleep


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    Thanks everyone for the discussion. It's very interesting to hear from those who have used cc and the stories that go with it. I know the idea makes me feel a bit sick but at the same time am I also doing him a disservice by not giving him the opportunity to get back into self-settling so he sleeps better? He never used to cry when he woke - he seems unhappy about being awake and I'm not a very patient mummy on the sixth wake-up for no reason.

    As someone commented above, it does seem strange that he could self settle and now seems to have forgotten how to.

    I do blame the dummy for a lot of this and have confiscated it as of yesterday morning. He was pretty bad again last night but seemed to be looking for it less, perhaps.

    With cc, I gather the idea is that you go in and shh and pat at certain time frames but not pick them up? I am
    Not sure how this would work with my DS as he tends not to settle without being picked up and I fear I might stimulate him to cry even more by coming in and then going away again without cuddling him.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rose&Aurelia View Post
    I don't understand why ppl force babies to sleep alone when they can sleep so much better right next to mum.
    The fact that your baby sleeps better doesn't mean that all do. Up until she was about a month old, my bub slept far better next to me. She then started being disturbed by me next to her. I started having to get her drowsy and then leave in order to avoid hours and hours of screaming from being so overtired. Now, she sleeps so much better on her own, in her cot. If having her with me would help her sleep better, I'd do it in a heartbeat - but she gets far less sleep and is tired/grumpy all day. I'm certainly not going to force her to ensure that, even though I'd prefer to be bedsharing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Renn View Post
    The fact that your baby sleeps better doesn't mean that all do. Up until she was about a month old, my bub slept far better next to me. She then started being disturbed by me next to her. I started having to get her drowsy and then leave in order to avoid hours and hours of screaming from being so overtired. Now, she sleeps so much better on her own, in her cot. If having her with me would help her sleep better, I'd do it in a heartbeat - but she gets far less sleep and is tired/grumpy all day. I'm certainly not going to force her to ensure that, even though I'd prefer to be bedsharing.
    True and I should have clarified about when babies do sleep well next to mum but instead are put into the cot by themselves.

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    I am anti-cc for various reasons but mainly because I really would not like to only be afforded certain types of comfort if I was upset myself. DD rarely cries but I know if I didn't action her distress quickly she would get worked up rather than going to sleep anyway. I believe she rarely cries because DP & I see to her needs quickly at all times - overnight included. This approach wouldn't work for everyone I am sure, and at times I do feel drained (like today, after rocking her for over an hr at 3am) but we are very attached to one another & I can't bear the thought of her ever thinking I don't want to cuddle or comfort her for any reason. So she has my full attention whenever she needs it & it works for us so far. She's an absolutely rubbish sleeper.

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    Quote Originally Posted by becandabub View Post
    I am anti-cc for various reasons but mainly because I really would not like to only be afforded certain types of comfort if I was upset myself. DD rarely cries but I know if I didn't action her distress quickly she would get worked up rather than going to sleep anyway. I believe she rarely cries because DP & I see to her needs quickly at all times - overnight included. This approach wouldn't work for everyone I am sure, and at times I do feel drained (like today, after rocking her for over an hr at 3am) but we are very attached to one another & I can't bear the thought of her ever thinking I don't want to cuddle or comfort her for any reason. So she has my full attention whenever she needs it & it works for us so far. She's an absolutely rubbish sleeper.
    My feelings exactly. Down to the rocking/feeding for an hour at 3am. DP took over for another hour after that! Parents of rubbish sleepers unite

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