Hi all - long time reader, first time poster
My Fiance (do you call them DPs on here? confused!) has three children with his ex wife. We have been together for three years. The ex wife is also repartnered. We have the children every weekend and they live with their Mum during the week (she has them for the occasional weekend if it's a birthday etc).
Lately the children have been allowed to stay home from school for an array of ridiculous reasons (three days off for a blister this week, five days off for a rolled ankle the week before) and we're worried this is setting a poor example for the children.
Also, their Mum has started bribing them again (like she used to in the early days) with "you can go to Dad's if you like, but you'll miss the party/fair/holiday we're going on this weekend". She has also told Miss 8yo that she is allowed to choose if she goes to her Dad's or not.
How on earth do we have any say in these types of behaviours when we're only hands-on parenting for 2 days per week? It's becoming so frustrating that we're considering going for 50% custody which will obviously be a battle and a half.
Thanks for reading and apologies for my first-post babble. Just getting frustrated