Basically, as the title states. Do you rush to their side, give them time to process? Bake muffins and get your child to draw a picture? Try to treat them as normal and wait for them to bring it up? My grandma was just diagnosed with cancer, which is a massive shock as she was fairly healthy.. she is currently at the hospital having further scans and has her daughter (my aunt) with her. She lost her husband (my pop) to cancer about 20 years ago, and has always said she'd top herself if she had cancer (and had actually stockpiled a bunch of pop's medication to do just that, luckily it was discovered and thrown out). I really don't know what to do at this point, hoping someone might have had experience and can offer some ideas?