please tell me that my 11 week old sleeping 20min blocks all day and not wanting to go back to sleep no matter what i do is completely normal and he's going to improve. He wakes once at night but takes 3hrs to get to sleep for the night. He's awake at 5am and i bring him to bed with us so we can all get more sleep. Otherwise we would be starting the day from 5am.
If its not normal, it seems i have the same sleep issues i had with dd - who we had to get a sleep specialist come to our home to help us out, only then she improved after 4mths of visits.
He's fully breastfed and we dont have feeding issues.
I just need some support here.
I dont get a break during the day. The constant rocking and settling is bloody exhausting. Hearing him 'cry it out' breaks my heart and i get anxious. And 'crying it out' only makes him totally distressed as we tried this for the first time last night after 2hrs of trying to get him off to sleep. DH was really frustrated last night and had to go outside to calm down, i was almost in tears mainly from dealing with it all day then having to put up with it at night too.
Whats even more frustrating is that i stick to my guns with a sleep time routine. i communicate with dh so he does that same as i do. Everthing is consistant. His room is dark for sleeps, music is played to drown out sudden noises. We follow feed, play, feed, sleep. He is swaddled for every sleep. I keep him up for 2hr max but usually 1.5hrs is his ideal time. But 20mins is all i get. I allow him time to self settle, i allow him to grizzle before i go in and start assisting him - the same techniques are used as i know swapping what i do to settle him confuses him.
I want to enjoy my baby but yet again lak of sleep issues are taking over. de ja vu of my 1st bub. U'd think i'd have learnt from that but i just cant firgure out what we are doing wrong here.