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    Quote Originally Posted by Plan2bamummy View Post
    People think outside the box, both parents working full time doesn't mean 5 days a week childcare ( I might add if you're working you should get some back in rebates anyway)
    Our kids will be 1-2 days at the most, why? Because DH and I will work alternative days, and when there's a clash that's when childcare comes into it. There are 7 days a week and in this day and age there are plenty of jobs overnight or on weekends so you can swap. We will still have family time and we will also get individual time with our kids.
    I also find it hilarious that people are claiming after childcare they will only have a bit left over, but isn't that more than what you have now? Isn't some money better than none?
    I'd rather raise my kids myself than make $24 a week for 10 hour days, 5 days a week thanks.

    My husband's a shift worker with erratic shifts and is constantly on call, I doubt we could ever alternate.

    Hurrah to you and your situation, but don't scoff at mine thanks.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Maybelline View Post
    I think kids need you more as they get older ... Especially teenagers .. This is where the big work begins ! ( I have been told by friends who have kids finishing high school )
    Yeah, I'm sure you're right actually.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lambjam View Post
    When DS1 was 9 months old and started full time childcare, I comforted myself with the thought that if I just buckled down at this point I could be at home later on in his life. While I intend to go back to work, I never want my hours to be such that my teenage children are at home alone in the afternoons.
    I completely agree with this. It's so hard to get older kids to engage with parents and you have to catch the little moments when they open up. that isn't always after 6.30pm. I find I learn a lot about DD1 on the drive home from school with her friends in the car.

    There needs to be a solution to the super problem for SAHMs. Whether that's their partners making contributions, or axing the BB and putting that money into something else, but there has to be a solution. Otherwise there will be a lot of children supporting their parents in their later years, and I don't want my kids to face that burden.

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    Quote Originally Posted by delirium View Post
    A thing called equity? I have said I am happy for PPL to get *another* increase which will put it at least double what the BB is. But if we are all about choices....
    I think people identify the two payments too closely to one another. They serve completely different purposes and are being phased in and out respectively because they serve/d different functions.

    If PPL was introduced as, say, Veterans' payments were decreasing, you wouldn't make such a strong correlation. But really, the link is just as tenuous.

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    Quote Originally Posted by OurLittleBlessing View Post
    I really admire your tenacity and you are obviously hard workers which is awesome

    If I'm reading correctly, when will you have family time? I could be misinterpreting your post, but I would rather have time as a family even if it is only doing mundane stuff around the house, or something simple like a picnic, than always be passing one another in the hallway so to speak.

    Which I guess is why people sometimes don't opt to have a member of the family working every day of the week. I get that it would be necessary sometimes of course.
    Sundays together is family day. Tues and Saturday's my day and wed/ thurs DH day.
    This will be once I return full time. While kids are under 12months I'll be at home on part pay and self funded leave.

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    Quote Originally Posted by RobinSparkles View Post
    You have absolutely no idea. Why is it that you continuously post in these threads, often big talking how much money you earn and the things that you own? It is absolutely awesome that you don't struggle as a working mother and $330 a week for CC is chump change for you, seriously it is great that everything in life has gone your way so that you are in that position.

    Others aren't. Get over it. Please, please stop sneakily putting other Mothers down because they don't work or their partners don't earn a high income, requiring government assistance.
    Btw this is the SAHM chat section, I only say this as I seem to notice you don't like it when people with no point other than to antagonize go into threads specifically for the things you choose to do.
    I think folks are being a bit harsh on Kimberly. In an ideal world people should be financially secure before they have kids. Some folks work hard while they are young: put in the hard yards in highschool, study at Uni, get good jobs and work for a few years establishing a career. These people will earn higher wages than those who for whatever reason don't put the hard yards in early on.

    I don't think those who have nice things because they work hard should apologise for it. Or purposely exclude information about their status to make others feel better.

    I have a very good friend. Her and hubby ballsed around at highschool. Did stuff all actually. Didn't do study worked in retail etc. Got pregnant with nr 1 young. Had plans to buy A house but Spent beyond their means and got in credit card debt. Nr 2 was planned, nr 3 was an accident. They are now in great financial difficulty.
    - now I'm not telling this story to have a go at my friend. She is a lovely, warm, loyal friend. A great wife and Awesome mother. One of the best people I know. I'm telling this story simply to highlight a point: some people aren't smart with their finances and create their own problems. Mentioning this in a debate is stating a point of view. Which people are entitled to.

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    This is a not very nice subjective assessment and probably tainted by your own situation and past history with Kimberly.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Plan2bamummy View Post
    I also find it hilarious that people are claiming after childcare they will only have a bit left over, but isn't that more than what you have now? Isn't some money better than none?
    Hilarious hey?

    I'm happy for you that you can organise such working arrangements. But not everyone is the same as you.

    My DP works hours that are all over the place, I have no family close and so if I was to work my only option is a set day time job. However if I do work I'm left with basically nothing.

    I don't find it hilarious at all.






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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    I think folks are being a bit harsh on Kimberly. In an ideal world people should be financially secure before they have kids. Some folks work hard while they are young: put in the hard yards in highschool, study at Uni, get good jobs and work for a few years establishing a career. These people will earn higher wages than those who for whatever reason don't put the hard yards in early on.

    I don't think those who have nice things because they work hard should apologise for it. Or purposely exclude information about their status to make others feel better.

    I have a very good friend. Her and hubby ballsed around at highschool. Did stuff all actually. Didn't do study worked in retail etc. Got pregnant with nr 1 young. Had plans to buy A house but Spent beyond their means and got in credit card debt. Nr 2 was planned, nr 3 was an accident. They are now in great financial difficulty.
    - now I'm not telling this story to have a go at my friend. She is a lovely, warm, loyal friend. A great wife and Awesome mother. One of the best people I know. I'm telling this story simply to highlight a point: some people aren't smart with their finances and create their own problems. Mentioning this in a debate is stating a point of view. Which people are entitled to.
    VicPark everything you've said is valid. I think the issue people have is this is a SAHMs thread. It's a bit harsh to drop in a criticise people in a thread where they're supposed to be supported.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    I think folks are being a bit harsh on Kimberly. In an ideal world people should be financially secure before they have kids. Some folks work hard while they are young: put in the hard yards in highschool, study at Uni, get good jobs and work for a few years establishing a career. These people will earn higher wages than those who for whatever reason don't put the hard yards in early on.

    I don't think those who have nice things because they work hard should apologise for it. Or purposely exclude information about their status to make others feel better.

    I have a very good friend. Her and hubby ballsed around at highschool. Did stuff all actually. Didn't do study worked in retail etc. Got pregnant with nr 1 young. Had plans to buy A house but Spent beyond their means and got in credit card debt. Nr 2 was planned, nr 3 was an accident. They are now in great financial difficulty.
    - now I'm not telling this story to have a go at my friend. She is a lovely, warm, loyal friend. A great wife and Awesome mother. One of the best people I know. I'm telling this story simply to highlight a point: some people aren't smart with their finances and create their own problems. Mentioning this in a debate is stating a point of view. Which people are entitled to.
    But see this is the false correlation people make. I'm well educated, and as I've said before on the forum, my trade is, quite frankly crap money. I worked 10 sometimes 12 hour days, weekends. For the bargain price of around 40k.

    hard work doesn't always = good income. My husband worked really hard in an abbatoirs in 2004 earning 14 bucks an hour f/t from memory? Just bc a family isn't on big money doesn't mean they don't work hard or haven't been to uni... that is a fallacy.

    I think it's also important to realise not everyone WANTS the expensive house, designer clothes, that's why many in here are SAHM's, we have sacrificed bc we feel it's what's best for *our* family.

    and I will add Vic - I have zero issue with how KG chooses to live her life, horses for courses and all that. but coming into the SAHM section telling everyone basically how lazy they are and how much money she earns and how hard she works is disingenuous.
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