Would you still tell your husband if it meant you'd lose your job? Or would you say up front I can't work on this because I can't keep it confidential?
Sorry not singling you out but I'm genuinely fascinated by this.
I also don't really like the implication people are making that those of us who don't tell our spouses everything do so because they aren't trustworthy. My DH is one of the most trustworthy people I know and is also incredibly sensible and great to go to for practical advice. But I still don't tell him stuff that my friends just don't want anyone else to know.
I think the point people are missing is it's not about our partners - it's about our friends.