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    unfortunately he has an almost non existant sex drive anyway so if I said no sex he really wouldn't give a toss. He would (and yes I'm serious) go without it if I refused to use the pill or get TL. In the past when I've been pregnant I've had to force the issue as he won't DTD once I begin to show, last pregnancy was almost 4.5 months without it

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    I had to stop all hormonal contraception for medical reasons, DH said he would get the snip, got a referral for it and then did nothing for 12 months. His excuses were too busy to make appointment, too embarrassed to make the phone call from the office etc etc. there was always a reason. I was not comfortable just relying on condoms as that was how DD came to be.
    In the end I had the essure procedure done, which is less invasive than tubal ligation as the device is inserted vaginally.
    DH claims he will still get the snip anyway, as he is very stubborn but I strongly doubt it.

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    I don't know that it's far to insist that he get surgery if you're not willing to look at the same situation yourself.
    I mean fair enough from what I've seen it's a bigger deal for a woman than a man (I'm not 100% on that, I've never really researched it heh) but perhaps if you show a bit more of a willingness to consider it he might be more inclined to consider surgery himself?

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    Quote Originally Posted by noobie View Post
    unfortunately he has an almost non existant sex drive anyway so if I said no sex he really wouldn't give a toss. He would (and yes I'm serious) go without it if I refused to use the pill or get TL. In the past when I've been pregnant I've had to force the issue as he won't DTD once I begin to show, last pregnancy was almost 4.5 months without it
    hmm some would consider you forcing the issue of having sex as abusive. If he doesnt want it leave him go. Guess you know what you have to do then youll have to get a TL

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    I'm extremely lucky that I offered to have TL once we finish our family and DP said to me that I've been through enough and a vasectomy is a much less involved and risky procedure.

    I don't know what to suggest in your case as it sounds like neither of you are willing to budge

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    As far as I know the 'snip' has no effect on a mans sex drive. My dp is planning to get one in a few years when my copper iud is removed so I read up on it a bit. Unfortunately yes it is his choice and can't really be forced, but damn some males can be sooks compared to what us females have to go through. I hope you can come to a compromise.


 

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