Sorry a bit of a contraceptive rant topic!
I have just had a chemical pregnancy so I told hubby I needed a break from the mini pill (we were not TTC- pure accident but I was pretty happy about the positive, sad about the rest).
He joked that he hated condoms and we would just have to abstain from the deed until I went back on the pill.
I told him he could just pull out as we are not that fussed if an accident happened but would look into permanent fixes if we do have a 3rd child. Only one day post AF we DTD. He didn't pull out nor did we use a condom.
So what on earth is he trying to pull? I will admit I did not mention it to him (about the condom or pulling out at the time of DTD) as being first day post AF and I know that I don't ovulate until late in my cycle the chance of pregnancy is very slim at best.
We had a massive discussion about permanent fixes and couldn't agree as he wants me to be done and I don't want full surgery for something that is minor for him.
How have you gone about getting him to have the snip when he is so against it? I refuse to have surgery and he darn well knows it (unless we had a whoops baby and I required a c-section but have had 2 very quick natural delivery's so far).
I am just so annoyed that he is more worried about losing his sex drive than he is about the risks associated with anesthetic for women to have their tubes tied and it is so very selfish!
Surely I am not the only woman to undergo this battle over who gets done. Problem is we both agree that NO WAY IN HELL would we have a 4th but we are a very fertile couple and I am sure we could have more than one whoopsie on normal contraceptives. I have tried the mirena which sent me off my head, I am still breast feeding DD (20 months) so can't use the regular pill and I will not get the implant or needle as I am concerned that any form of slow release contraceptive might effect me the way the mirena did (I was very nasty to my kids and short tempered with hubby)
Thoughts? and thanks fo allowing me to have a rant