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    Default Need advice on when to seek advice...

    I've been TTC now for 11 months. I did get a BFP which ended 10w2d with a D&C last July, 2 months in to my TTC journey.

    My question is-when should I seek assistance in TTC from a professional?

    I'm 32, overweight n only ever had the one pregnancy. DP is 31, fairly fit n has recently quit smoking. We both drink but maybe twice a month. Around o time I get EWCM for one afternoon n pain on one side with OPK's to confirm. I go by a period tracker app n DTD every day in the fertile window with more times once EWCM n pain is present...

    I'm really at my wits end which is definitely exacabated by the fact I conceived so early after coming off implanon after 7 years (I was on the pill before that) without really knowing what I was doing-just having sex n not even knowing the importance of ovulation!!! I feel I need a plan. Any comments would be gratefully appreciated x

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    I don't think there is a one size fits all time from for when you are ready to seek extra help from a FS. It sounds like your TTCing is taking a toll on you emotionally and I think that is just as good a reason as any to start looking into other options. I know the docs usually say 12months but that approach isn't for everyone.
    Ours was happy to refer us after 6months due to age and other factors being of concern to us. Luckily we didn't need the referral, but perhaps talking to your gp about you next step will help you feel a little bit more in charge of things.

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    Hi Chillies!
    We had trouble conceiving for years. As madewithlove said, it's usually a straight 12months of TTC that doctors usually leave it if people are young enough without any factors. But of course every situation is different, and with your loss in the middle I'm not sure what they would suggest.

    All I can say is - what is your body telling you? Do you have any 'symptoms' that something isn't working as it should? How long are your cycles? How far into a cycle do you ovulate? Write things down in a journal so that when you go to the doctors (hoping it won't be necessary and you will get a BFP to hold soon) you won't have to try and remember things on the spot. Do your hormones seem to be working?
    I personally can't see the harm in the doctor sending you for bloods at some stage just to check and set your mind at ease.

    There are a few things that could be causing a BFP to be elusive, one of which is the amazing link of processes that it takes to conceive and fall pregnant. But go with your instincts and if you think there is more to it then talk to your doctor.

    For us, we had PCO(S) and I could tell that something wasn't right 4 months into TTC our first from body signs, went and saw a doctor around 8 months and they told me about the birds and the bees (my doc was OS at the time and still can't remember if I paid for that appt as I was so shocked that they actually had a medical licence), at 12months went to our doctor and she sent me for bloods straight away and found out I wasn't ovulating. Took another year after this and some help to fall.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MadeWithLove View Post
    I don't think there is a one size fits all time from for when you are ready to seek extra help from a FS. It sounds like your TTCing is taking a toll on you emotionally and I think that is just as good a reason as any to start looking into other options. I know the docs usually say 12months but that approach isn't for everyone.
    Ours was happy to refer us after 6months due to age and other factors being of concern to us. Luckily we didn't need the referral, but perhaps talking to your gp about you next step will help you feel a little bit more in charge of things.
    Good point MWL! I guess I'm questioning whether my situation is dire enough to go? I'm just really annoyed I could get a BFP not knowing about anything n as the cycles drag on I keep thinking something has to be wrong with me even though my cycles r regular, my o day is usually between 5-7 days after AF finishes.
    The only thing that truly varies is how heavy/light AF is...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Little Ted View Post
    Hi Chillies!
    We had trouble conceiving for years. As madewithlove said, it's usually a straight 12months of TTC that doctors usually leave it if people are young enough without any factors. But of course every situation is different, and with your loss in the middle I'm not sure what they would suggest.

    All I can say is - what is your body telling you? Do you have any 'symptoms' that something isn't working as it should? How long are your cycles? How far into a cycle do you ovulate? Write things down in a journal so that when you go to the doctors (hoping it won't be necessary and you will get a BFP to hold soon) you won't have to try and remember things on the spot. Do your hormones seem to be working?
    I personally can't see the harm in the doctor sending you for bloods at some stage just to check and set your mind at ease.

    There are a few things that could be causing a BFP to be elusive, one of which is the amazing link of processes that it takes to conceive and fall pregnant. But go with your instincts and if you think there is more to it then talk to your doctor.

    For us, we had PCO(S) and I could tell that something wasn't right 4 months into TTC our first from body signs, went and saw a doctor around 8 months and they told me about the birds and the bees (my doc was OS at the time and still can't remember if I paid for that appt as I was so shocked that they actually had a medical licence), at 12months went to our doctor and she sent me for bloods straight away and found out I wasn't ovulating. Took another year after this and some help to fall.
    That's just it LT-I feel normal, but keep thinking its my fault as my DP already has children n I'm the only one that MC my one BFP. It's frustrating to know I could get UTD but now 8 months after-I still have nothing!

    The other thing I wonder is if I do make an effort to go-will they just tell me to lose weight?! Which is annoying as I'm the same weight I got UTD....

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    MWL said it perfectly, there is no one size fits all when it comes to TTC. In my case, we started TTC in August 2011 and I got my first BFP in January 2012. Sadly that ended in a missed miscarriage and I wasn't convinced it was just "one of those things". I had other symptoms though that made me think something wasn't right. I told a fib to our GP and said that we had been trying for 12 months before we go that BFP so he ran a whole lot of tests and turns out I was a right mess! I had abnormally low vitamin D levels (which led to my depression and needing anti d's) for starters but the two worse diagnosis's were my Hashimoto's and my low AMH (egg reserve) along with DH's poor sperm motility and morphology. My ob conducted testing after my D&C and it turns out that my thyroid antibodies had attacked my growing baby. To cut a super long story short, if I had continued to get BFP's, I would have just continued to miscarry them all. I went to a fertility naturopath who put me on 16 pills a day and put my DH on herbs and potions. I also was put on Thyroxine for the Hashimoto's symptoms. I finally got my second BFP in September 2012 and I am now almost 30 weeks along

    I've gone on far longer than I intended to, but I guess i just wanted to say to listen to your body and trust it. I knew I needed help. I went to 3 different specialists before I found one who would medicate me for my Hashi's. They all told me I was imagining the symptoms and I didn't need the Thyroxine! Within 2 months of starting the Thyroxine, I got my BFP so that right there tells me my instinct was right!

    I was given a 1% chance of conceiving naturally, so miracles do and can happen!

    Best of luck to you and honestly, if I were you, I'd be starting some basic testing now. It also makes you feel that you're doing all that you can and there's a sense of satisfaction in that
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