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    Default Bipolar Vs Grumpy/verbally abusive/aggressive nature by choice (lack of self control)

    My DP went to the Dr after I forced him to, due to him always being angry, yelling, swearing at me and the kids.

    Dr ordered blood tests and said he may have bipolar (after a 15 min appt!).

    He thinks he has bipolar now.

    I cant help but feel he's just been given an excuse for his bad behaviour. How can you tell the difference?

    p.s I really dont want to be offensive to anyone who has this disorder or any other. There is enough stigma associated with mental health without me adding to it

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    It's not easy to tell the difference, and to add to it, it sounds like he has borderline more than bipolar (very easy to confuse)... His best bet, if he can admit there is something wrong, is to go to a psychiatrist and get a proper diagnosis. From there, he can get a plan. Whether it is therapy, medication or a combination of both, treatment is one of the best options. He can NOT use it as an excuse for being abusive towards you and the kids. It took me a while to realise this. I'm the one who has bipolar and borderline, and trying to deal without meds and therapy was a mistake and almost cost me my relationship.

    Good luck with everything. Get him to seek help. You don't need to deal with this, and not do the kids. If you want any advice or someone to talk to, pm me

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    I will disagree with the previous poster and say that it is easy to tell the difference. All the bpad ive sern have been pretty obvious. But he needs to see a psychiatrist to fully assess him. 15 mins at the gp isn't enough.
    From what you have said it is difficult to know if he has bipolar. From what you described he could have depression, bipolar, personality disorder or anxiety disorder. I do hope you guys get it sorted out soon.

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    My ex has bi-polar it depends on his other symptoms.
    Did u go in with him? He may of told the dr what/how he really feels iykwim.
    Bi-polar (in my ex) seems to have a lot of ups n downs and he could get verbally abusive and was very impulsive.
    He is quite intelligent too but could never stick at things and was easily distracted and he always had an excuse for his behavior and would blame everyone but himself (not sure if that is personality).
    He didn't get diagnosed by just a blood test he had to see a specialist, he is on meds now and much better for it (little too late for us).
    It explains a lot in hindsight.

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    Yeh as the others have said. A GP isn't really equipped to provide an accurate diagnosis. He needs a referral to a psychiatrist. It will take a few sessions for the doc to decided what's going on with him and devise a course of action.

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    From what I've heard it's hard to tell the difference my ex has borderline & bi-polar too & his dr said it was hard to tell ESP if they have both. They both have similar symptoms.

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    will have to google borderline. Neverheard of it. I've been with him for 13 years... its beenreally hard for a long time between us. This is just another thing to make it harder. :-(

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rachie81 View Post
    will have to google borderline. Neverheard of it. I've been with him for 13 years... its beenreally hard for a long time between us. This is just another thing to make it harder. :-(
    The technical name is borderline personality disorder. It's very similar to bipolar, except has a lot more anger. The treatment (from my personal experience) is very much the same as bipolar.

    To the pps who are disagreeing with me when I say it's difficult to tell the difference, I meant with me. As a sufferer it's difficult for me to see the difference between genuine anger, and one of my "moods". Also, from what the OP said, it's not easy to tell the difference with the info she gave

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    thank you everyone for your replies. I am so confused, I'm hurt, i'm sick of being yelled at. I guess i just want answers asap. He is being referred on, but the dr wants to start him on drugs and I think thats rediculous without seeing someone qualified to diagnose the problem...

    Next question: If he simply has an anger problem, will the drugs help?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rachie81 View Post
    thank you everyone for your replies. I am so confused, I'm hurt, i'm sick of being yelled at. I guess i just want answers asap. He is being referred on, but the dr wants to start him on drugs and I think thats rediculous without seeing someone qualified to diagnose the problem...

    Next question: If he simply has an anger problem, will the drugs help?
    Depending on the drugs and actual problem, they could make things worse... Don't let him start on any drugs till he's seen a psych. And yeah, if it's just an anger problem, it's unlikely that meds will help

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